Thanks Gopher, the counters (which I understand you are responsible for) are the reason I opened an account here (so double thanks!). Avesraggiana, let's keep it going, we last jerked off on the same day.
Woo hoo .. 50 days! Not so much as a peek, or a single stroke of self=medication. 7 x O with the wife, so about once per week. Just had my first 10 minutes topless in the sunshine since October. Vitamin D and libido are related, so will be interesting to see if my sex drive picks up over the coming months, or if my way forward is as "flat" as the last 7 weeks have been. Never noticed any change over winter in the past, but never thought to look for one either.
Congratulations, Zippy! I hit the 50 day mark today too, although my counter hasn’t ticked over yet. But it will when I finish typing this post. I began my NOFAP challenge already in Flatline. I’m still there. The first thirty days brought no discernible changes. Then around Day 35, the morning woodies became temporary and weak night-time woodies and by Day 45 or so, I’ve been waking up in the middle of the night and early morning hours with a raging hard-on, the type of which I’ve not felt in a long, long time. If I can experience so much change in a little over a fortnight, I wonder what the next fifty days will bring? I wonder what they will bring for both me and you, and for all of us right around the same point in our recovery? Keep up the great work, and lucky for you that you have a partner. I’m sure having her must be a great help.
Read some of your old journal and this one. Congratulations on your progress. Working right there with you to stop PMO once and for all. Keep it up.
Congratulations, Zippy! I'm right there with you at 60 Days! Can't wait to see what the next sixty will bring. Carry on!
75 days, next landmark will be 100. Nothing really to report, no spontaneous erections, but when called upon things are working well for a man of my age!
That’s about the same for me, Zippy. No spontaneous erections, no erections even when I have sexual thoughts. But, everything seems to work when I need it to. I’m glad to hear about your continuing progress.
So you guys (zippy and aves)… when you make love with your wife or gf, are you completely in contact with your wife the whole time? Or do thoughts of certain positions or fantasies pass by now and then…
I find if I fantasise I don't last as long, and I prefer to extend the activity. So for me fantasy is detrimental and certainly not needed. And I was Mr. Delayed Ejaculation for the first 9 years of our relationship (before a couple of years of ED kicked in), so it's a major change.
No, it's usually at my request. Mrs. Zippy rarely initiates, but is usually willing when I've built up some desire, every 4-5 days on average I'd guess.
100 days up. One major breakthrough for me is my reaction to a recent 20 day period of my wife's sulking and withdrawing sex. In the past I'd have binged on porn. This time I carried on with the program, and it turned out that when she finally warmed to me again, it was worth the wait.
Thanks for posting this, it's encouraging to see others fighting after several years. Nothing to be ashamed about, it's not easy -- I'm about 2.5 years into the fight.
Zippy what was your ejaculation frequency like over the 100 days? Do you feel like O's held you back? Thanks!
Averaged about once a week, although there was one episode of 2 consecutive days very early on (30th and 31st December), and longest period with zero O was 20 days. I have records on a spreadsheet lol. I don't think the Os were problematic, generally sent me back to flatline for a few days, which seems fairly natural.
