Your experience with visualization exercises?

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  1. Osa

    Osa New Member

    I'd discovered that through wearing my chastity cage, I'd developed my visualization ability. I started off imagining that the cage was indestructible as a way to discourage myself from considering learning to pick the lock or get bolt cutters, etc.
    When I later had to remove the cage on some occasions, I realized that having developed my ability to imagine the device being indestructible, I could then visualize myself still locked in it even when I actually wasn't, and then act accordingly. Though I'm well aware that it's all a mind game, it has worked for me so far. I acknowledge that it probably has its limits, but as just one more tool in the recovery box, visualization has helped me though lately.

    What are your experiences with visualization exercises?
     
  2. Invictus23

    Invictus23 Member

    I often try and visualize my life the way I want it - typically what would happen in a year or two and try and go as in depth as possible for what 1 week of my life would be like.

    I also visualize what it will be like if I go down the same path and don't make changes, and try to go as in depth as I can for a week in my life a year or two from now.

    I find it effective when I do it, but it takes a lot of concentration and I struggle to fully form clear mental pictures of things that I have never experienced.
     
  3. Osa

    Osa New Member

    I like your point about developing clear mental pictures of things you have not experienced. Since it has not yet happened, what kind of artificial means can be tapped into to help one imagine it? Video? Books? Something else?

    One reason I can visualize the cage when I am not wearing it is that I actually have experienced it.

    I've found the same with my screentime app. I has forced me to reduce my internet time, which in turn has forced me to turn to cleaning my place or other activities, which I hope will likewise help me to visualize these habits later once the app is removed. In short, it's a matter of forcing the actual experience onto oneself initially so as to then be able to visualize it later.
     
  4. Invictus23

    Invictus23 Member

    I first discovered this technique from a paul mckenna book.

    He says to imagine watching your future play out as a film on a cinema screen with you watching it from a seat in at the back of the cinema.
    After a while, change it so you actually float into the film and it becomes first person.

    I find it very tricky but I think repetition of the same scenario will help. Also visualising memories where you felt the way you want to will help remind you have how good this future could be.

    e.g if you want to have great sex, remember a time you were incredibly aroused and try and insert that feeling into your future visualisation.


    Another technique is to write you own obituary - basically when you die what other people will say about your life.

    e.g Harold struggled with addiction in his youth but overcame it and went on to be the C.E.O of an anti drug company that aimed to educate children about all potential additive substances and the mechanisms in which they work.


    The idea is that you write it to say what you want other people to say about your life - this can help you really understand what you want to accomplish, not just now but in the next 50 years or so.


    Then you can also write the obituary of what people will say if you make bad choices and follow impulses

    e.g Harold struggled with addiction during his youth and unfortunately it consumed him. He lost his job and gf and spiralled into a horrible depression. An intervention took place and he was admitted to a rehab clinic in which he undertook therapy. Unfortunately he was unable to ever kick the habit and became homeless, begging for change so that he could go the supermarket and jack off to the front cover of heat magazine every day. Eventually he committed suicide because he could not bear to think of how he had wasted his life - you get the idea.
     
  5. What if visualisation is the same fantasizing???

    http://www.forbes.com/sites/daviddisalvo/2011/06/08/visualize-success-if-you-want-to-fail/
     
  6. Deleted User

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    It is fantasising, directed day-dreaming.

    The thing is, when we think of sexual fantasies, or when we day-dream, we do it in a way that's usually purposeless, fruitless, and potentially harmful.

    If you visualise a goal of yours, you won't activate the same pathways as when you fantasise about sex. Instead, you'll re-route your brain to think of non-PMO related objects. I didn't think about it much, but visualisation could be very helpful against the PMO addiction (and possibly others). Unfortunately, I'm very bad at visualisation, but meditation in general are very helpful.
     
  7. My dear friends, here smth interesting what I found surfing the web...

    #4. Visualizing Your Own Success Makes You Lazier

    You've probably heard about a little self-help book called The Secret -- if you didn't read it yourself, then chances are you know someone who did and wouldn't shut up about it a few years ago. And if you're more selective about your friends than we are, then here's a spoiler for you: According to the book, "the secret" is that you can achieve success by thinking really hard about it. Just imagine yourself riding a yacht made of diamond, and the universe will eventually provide it.


    "Unfortunately, he died of cancer because he didn't want to live hard enough."

    Even if you don't believe the magic behind it, on the surface it seems like sound advice. Isn't "visualizing success" what all goal-driven people do? Don't they sit around all day imagining what their lives will be like once they get the big promotion or sell their big invention? Isn't that what motivates them to make it real?

    Actually, no. Science has shown that, shockingly, these type of fantasies don't help you succeed -- they actually do the exact opposite.

    It turns out that the more you fantasize about something, the more satisfaction you get from those fantasies and the less motivated you feel to actually turn them into a reality. This goes for everything from getting a new job to hooking up with that girl you like: Why go through the potential embarrassment of asking her out when you can get the same kind of satisfaction just thinking about it? At least that's the way your brain sees it.

    Clearly your brain has never touched an actual boob.

    To study this, researchers performed several tests where participants were asked to fantasize about specific scenarios (of the non-boner-inducing kind). They then tested the participants' blood pressure -- which indicates how much energy their body is giving them to perform a certain task -- and found that people who were induced with fantastical thoughts had lower levels of energy than those who weren't.

    So this isn't just a mental thing -- when you visualize yourself achieving one of your goals, your body goes, "Cool, I can take it easy now," and actually starts winding down. This explains why, according to previous studies, people who are more likely to fantasize about being successful are also more likely to apply for fewer jobs, earn a lower salary, and get fewer job offers.

    This is also why you will never sleep with Scarlett Johansson and/or Channing Tatum.

    And this goes for pretty much everything. You think you're going to do better at a darts game? You do worse. You imagine you're going to do well on a test? You'll even get your name wrong, probably. Researchers even had people fantasize about recovering faster from an injury only to confirm they'd heal slower, which was kind of a dick move. This isn't to say that positive thinking doesn't have its benefits -- it does and almost certainly makes you happier. It just isn't the best motivator.

    On a similar note .

    The source:
    http://www.cracked.com/article_20297_5-popular-self-help-tips-that-actually-hurt-your-career.html
     

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