I've seen a lot of partners of guys who watch porn (not necessarily addicts like us) freaking out when they find out about their partners porn use. They see it as some sort of betrayal/lies/dishonesty and rather than offering support to their partner during recovery, they choose to distance themselves and play victim. The thing is most guys watching porn aren't doing it to hurt their girlfriend/wife, and they aren't really actively hiding their porn use. The only reason a lot of men don't mention their porn use in a relationship is because the associated masturbation is something most people would consider a private activity. It just doesn't sound quite fair to me, obviously porn and masturbation aren't the same thing, but everyone has a different set of moral beliefs and ethics. Lets say for example a guy who never watched porn or masturbated due to religious beliefs, caught his wife masturbating privately and freaked out at her calling her a dishonest lier. If he never expressly told her that her masturbation would be a deal breaker then it would be very childish/immature of him to consider it some sort of betrayal. Everyone would stand up for her in that scenario, but the same scenario with a guy watching porn and he's considered a lying scumbag. That's my experience anyways, and I've seen this happen a lot with partners of porn addicts. I was hoping to be able to rely on a future partner for support in ditching porn, but now I'm not so sure if there are many women out there who can look at this rationally. I certainly haven't spotted a rational partner of a porn addict so far. I've also seen this kind of freakout happen when a female partner finds a guy's fleshlight, yet I don't see guys freaking out about vibrators enmass In the past I considered putting up with this bullshit/double standard, and getting rid of my fleshlight when I have a girlfriend. I've changed my mind though, if a girl isn't of sound mind and capable of reasoning like an adult, then she can hit the bricks I am of course taking a long break from porn until I no longer crave certain fetishes, but certainly not to please anyone else. I'm just doing that for my own peace of mind.