Will I ever be cured?

Assuming my problem is porn, I still have not seen much progress. One extra orgasm here or there throws me back into an intense flatline, even after two and a half years. I have had plenty of chances to rewire, but I'm really not seeing much progress as my erections are still very weak or non existent. I watched porn between 14 and 19, so with that logic would I definitely expect to be cured once I've been porn free for a period of time longer than that (5+ years)? Also I developed some really extreme premature ejaculation. I've had so many times where I've blown my load from innocent things like making out with a girl while we were both fully clothed. I'm just getting desperate and hopeless at this point because I'm seeing so many success stories with much shorter recovery times, meanwhile I'm still stuck. Got all my hormone and physical tests done and they were all good so that doesn't seem to be the issue. I eat fairly healthy and don't take an medications that may contribute to this. I actually tried cialis for the first time the other week and it didn't work.

 

Have you seen any changes on your body? Just any, the slightest

 

I'm more appreciative of life in general since starting this whole process. But in terms of improvements with sexual function, no.

 

Yeah that's what's keeping me going at this point. I really have no other choice but to continue with all of this. I may schedule a few appointments with a sex therapist soon.

 

Ironically enough, I'm not even as concerned about the ED as I am about the PE. At least when I only had ED I could be intimate in other ways. With the PE, I have to be super cautious about not letting my girl rub against my junk too much or else.... :/ you can guess what happens. And it's made worse by the fact that every extra orgasm worsens the flatline for me. I feel like the universe and fate itself are going out of their way to punish my sexual health as hard as they can. Whatever I did please forgive me so I can go back to normal and actually live my life for once lol. Before all these problems, I had the wrong impression I was 'small' and that was the base for all my worries. Now, I WISH I could go back to that time when I wasn't experiencing so many dick problems at once.

 

I am curious, can you stop and start the flow of your urine when you are urinating?

 

Yeah I can

 

have you looked into male keegles for PE? a regular keelgle regiment should help you to last longer. It's quite literally training muscles around your eurethra tube to stiffen and squeeze the eurethra. over time you can stop an orgasm a couple times during sexual intercourse just by doing a keegle. It at least gives you enough time to pull out and switch to orally pleasuring your partner. Over a long stretch of time you will inevitably make the muscles larger which should help restrict flow as well. It's as simple as using the same muscles you use to stop and start your flow of urine, consciously. Try it 30 min a day for a month & you should see considerable improvements with holding off the involuntary contractions that make up an orgasm.

 

My ED is so bad I can't have sex anytime soon. I have seen alot of good things about kegels, but just as many bad things about them as well. In particular, I have seen many people write they made their premature ejaculation even worse. If you read my post, you'll see that my PE is so bad, I sometimes finish before things have even begun. I've been doing pelvic stretches for about a month to see if by relaxing my pelvic floor, I can ease the PE, but so far not much progress.

I can feel the muscle or vein or whatever it is that brings the semen into my penis contract whenever I start to get aroused. Or if my glans is stimulated too much. If these contractions continue too much without me stopping them, I have reached the very beginning of the point of no return. The problem is, I get into this state from such simple things as kissing and also if I feel like 5 or 6 contractions, chances are I won't be able to hold it. I can sometimes hold it off with reverse kegels but only sometimes. It got so bad I've been using lidocaine which is a prescribed anesthetic that I put on my glans to desensitize it. But even that doesn't always help. I don't know if kegels will help with this because the stories I've seen from others are so mixed. Also, back when I PMO'd I would sometimes kegel/ clench my ass when masturbating so I don't know if my body will respond well to kegels after having that association with them.

I've been thinking of seeing a physical therapist to check out my pelvic floor, but I don't think they have a way to find if it's weak or if it's tense or if it's too strong.

What's your kegel regiment like?

 

Do you think there is less of a chance kegels will hurt me if also do body weight squats and pelvic stretches alongside them? I feel like the squats will strengthen everything in that general area while stretches will keep everything from getting too tense. My PE is caused by involuntary contractions that start very early into my arousal state, so I'm not really sure how to fight this problem.

 

Hey Grego, when you were PMO'ing, could you get it up just by watching porn? or did you also need to directly stimulate yourself?

 

I don't remember to be honest. The last time I masturbated to porn was May 2014.

 

I just like to ask everyone this cause no-one really clarifies. I always needed to directly stimulate myself to get hard to porn. I can't remember when this started but most people never mention this so i'm trying to see if i'm a different case

 

grego i know how hard it is. Judging by what I'm like now it will prob take me as long as i was addicted to cure. My brain is still interested in the fetish and still get dreams of them, after 2 years. We are sensitive people who got fucked when we pushed our brains too far with porn use. As i person i was always afraid to kiss a girl, when i kissed a girl i was no longer afraid. I never developed normally where i was afraid and then overcome it. Now the fears have manifested greatly into anxiety.

i got into my fetish from 15-19.5 , with a load of dopamine being released on a sensitive person. I can't imagine any drug doing the damage it caused some of us.

 

well I haven't had a keegle regiment in a long time but I do sometimes do 20-30 or so after orgasm, because orgasm reminds me to do them. lol. I also regularly do 20-30 after urinating, especially when urinating in public bathrooms, because again, urinating reminds me to do them. I just do them to keep healthy. I started doing them without ever knowing they were keegles back in my teens to experiment with controlling my orgasm. and a few years ago i began doing long sets of them (100-200 a night) because i was beginning to drain urine after putting my penis away & it was really pissing me off. (I believe this was a result of PMO damaging my penis, especially from toys I was using at the time, but I wont get into that now)

Pelvic floor control is also very helpful. Let me just say that for me personally, I find that the time it takes me to edge on orgasm is dependent on what position I am in. In some positions, I am able to last much longer. I remember when I was in my teens, I was only able to orgasm laying on my back, with my knees locked and my thigh muscles contracting. (and as a result of contracting my thigh muscles voluntarily, to hit orgasm faster, I realized that relaxing my body made it more difficult to orgasm!) so the fact that you are experimenting with pelvic tension release to stop an orgasm is very interesting to me!

definitely continue looking into pelvic relaxing and keegles! I am hoping that they may be your silver bullet. Also, try not to worry so much about your PE. Especially if you are young and sexually inexperienced, I want to ease your mind... You find a girl that you care about that cares about you, or even better, fall in love, and your PE won't matter. If you want to give her orgasm, you'll be face to snatch a whole lot anyway, your penis is just the finishing coup-de-graw.