Why someone who watched alot of PORN never developed PIED

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by Daumantas Šarka, Aug 3, 2021.

  1. Daumantas Šarka

    Daumantas Šarka New Member

    Hello guys, i know alot of people who watched alot of porn and masturbated but never developed PIED anyone know why it might be
     
  2. hogus

    hogus Well-Known Member

    Lower anxiety, more experience with girls from a younger age.
     
  3. -Luke-

    -Luke- Well-Known Member

    I would guess that it also depends on the type of porn people are watching or how desensitized they are. Many guys with severe PIED watched really extreme porn. I had some erection problem but I never had severe PIED, even though I watched tons of porn from a young age, with hours-long porn sessions. But I never watched really extreme stuff. I guess there's probably some correlation.
     
  4. DoneAtLast

    DoneAtLast Well-Known Member

    porn addiction has many side effects, and not everyone gets 100% of them. The same could be said for any disorder.

    It is possible they've been sexually active enough that they have kept a real world sexual life. It is possible they're still young enough to power through it and it might be a different story in a few years. It is possible they have a myriad of other issues going on, PIED just happens to not be one of them.

    As Luke mentions, the type of porn could play in. If their sex life is letting them act out their porn fantasies to some small degree, then their sex life could (in theory) be propped up by their porn addiction. If their favored porn was something that is just impossible to duplicate in a real relationship, then they're going to struggle even more.
     
  5. Deleted User

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    it depends on the organism as well. There are men more prone to erectile dysfunction than others. In the same way, there are tobacco smokers who smoked for 20 years and did not develop severe lung disease.

    Despite having some knowledge on this subject, there is something about which I still have doubts. The idea of "extreme porn" is still not clear to me.

    @-Luke- @DoneAtLast @Daumantas Šarka and @hogus


    I want to take advantage of the topic in part to ask you a question (You can answer me in a private message if you consider it prudent):

    What can be considered "extreme pornography"?

    Thank you for your answers
     
  6. -Luke-

    -Luke- Well-Known Member

    @Halonis:
    I used the term "extreme porn", but what I really meant was something like "level of desensitization". @DoneAtLast described it perfectly in his last paragraph.

    Some users with severe PIED on this forum described, that there came a point where an image of a naked woman or a woman in a bikini wouldn't arouse them anymore. Whether what they watched instead was considered extreme (what is extreme is a matter of opinion of course), I think only plays a subordinate role. But when you are in your 20s and a normal image of an attractive naked woman can't give you an erection anymore, there's obviously a problem.
     
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  7. Daumantas Šarka

    Daumantas Šarka New Member

    yeah i know what you talking i couldint get good erection form pictures
     
  8. Deleted User

    Deleted User Guest


    Thanks for answering. But I'm a bit confused about this: I don't remember in my 20s having an erection just to see an attractive woman. I had libido, but I never got an erecction just to see an attractive woman on the street. In those days (my 20s) I did not masturbate or watch porn because I was unaware of the existence of the internet. Actually I have 39 years old.

    It strikes me when men think they should get tough just to look at an attractive woman on the street or in a Picture. It has never happened to me.

    But, I never had any kind of dysfunction, far from it. I´ts Confused.


    That never happened to me. At least I never experienced that in my 20s even though I was very healthy and didn't know about PMO.

    According to my personal experience, it seems to me that it is very normal that we do not get an erection just by seeing an erotic image.

    What is not normal is when you are going to have sex and you do not get an erection.

    I do not know. That's what I think.
     
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  9. Deleted User

    Deleted User Guest


    Me neither. But never. Not even the first time I saw porn. Obviously I got erect when he started to touch me in the middle of the video transmission or when I saw the pictures in the screen and I start to Touch me . But I don't remember getting hard just to see the photo. Not even in my 20s when I was unaware of PMO's existence.

    Can be very normal


    Will be ?
     
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  10. -Luke-

    -Luke- Well-Known Member

    So you could get an erection by vanilla stuff like a picture of a naked woman. You needed to touch yourself, that's fine, but you would get an erection. I'm not saying it's "normal" to get an instant erection every time you see some naked skin. But some people are so desensitized that they can't get aroused by that or even some vanilla porn at all. And that's not normal for a young guy. They started with pictures and vanilla porn, then the content they watched escalated step by step, when the former step wouldn't arouse them anymore. And at some point, how can you even expect to be aroused by a woman in real life, if all you're ever watching is "extreme" (whatever extreme means) stuff? When the difference between what can happen withpeople in real life and what you see on a screen all the time becomes so great, it's no wonder to me that things don't work below the belt.
     
  11. DoneAtLast

    DoneAtLast Well-Known Member

    Exactly. I think we get a little too hung up on what another person's EXACT experiences are when we should look at the general, broader trends. It can be tricky to identify this stuff in motion.

    Feeling aroused by regular porn was a sign in my early relapses that things were improving. I didn't have to search as hard at those relapses, though it would quickly escalate again, so "testing" to regular porn is likely to backfire. As time went on I found myself much more attracted to things that were very feminine, but not necessarily sexual. So, beautiful hair, soft skin, curve of hips, petite hands, stuff like that. My attractions were also less laser focused on specific body parts, but an interest in the whole package. A woman with boobs quite to my tastes weren't boobs with a woman attached, but simply a very attractive woman... with nice boobs.

    As for when you get erections... well, don't expect to walk around with a constant tent pole. Part of getting off of porn is that you're less triggered and more in control. So, while your arousal at real women increases, you also won't break into a cold sweat every time you catch a nice curve and feel like you need to look up porn. It can sometimes turn into a wash. I think I notice my own arousal the most less from seeing a woman, but if I'm close to her and interacting with her. Maybe it is a time thing? It doesn't happen in a split second, but instead builds a bit? It is hard to say.
     
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  12. Daumantas Šarka

    Daumantas Šarka New Member

    i agree few motnhs ago i did no pmo for few months i think and i was supper aroused by vanila porn but i had other goal i started PMO because i coulditn get errection without porn and i started get errection with my own fantaseis i stoped and then i watched porn it still stayed for a while but after few montsh i got back to the same place no errectin with my imagination
     
  13. Deleted User

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    I understand. Ok.

    I read his post.
     
  14. Deleted User

    Deleted User Guest


    Exactly. Very good. Very good post @DoneAtLast . It´s important all the boys here understand this things in the travel to recovery.
     
  15. hogus

    hogus Well-Known Member

    I would consider "extreme pornography" to be one of
    1) things you wouldn't do in real life or things you would do a lot more carefully than you see in porn (anal is probably the most common example)
    2) things you might do in real life but for different reasons to what you got from porn. e.g. power play vs degradation
    Any porn that fits into either of these categories disconnects you from your sexuality and so for our purposes, should be considered "extreme". And that's on top of the inherent disconnection that comes with porn as a format (i.e. it's on a screen and you didn't actually get laid).
     
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  16. Deleted User

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    @hogus Thanks. I read his post. I understand his idea. Thanks for the answer.
     

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