When quitting porn alone doesn't do anything...

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by jorgetheman123, May 17, 2019.

  1. jorgetheman123

    jorgetheman123 New Member

    Porn addiction fucked up my libido pretty bad, to the point where I don't know what's like to actually want a woman sexually. I've been like this for 5 years, I stopped watching porn 2 years ago and I still don't have any libido left.

    I'm fully committed to never watching porn again, not even fantasizing, but it's not a magic sauce that solves everything (from my experience). What libido booster do you suggest I use? I also suffer from PDD which worsens my sex drive. I've heard about Wellbutrin and it's possible benefits in that aspect, but what supplements do you suggest I use?

    Again, quitting porn was not a magic bullet for me, there're obviously deeper issues I need to resolve.
     
  2. NewTerritories

    NewTerritories virtual

    I suppose my own situation is similar. Except I've still used porn pretty damn recently.

    You seek a 'libido booster'. Hmm. Why not a libido lessener? Why not go monk-mode, so to speak?

    My libido is too high to be comfortable monk. But not fired up enough to comfortably push me to boldly approach women (even in an online dating context). So I'll be uncomfortable either way. I just gotta choose, and take action.

    Try that for a libido booster: action. (Are you dating?)
     
  3. jorgetheman123

    jorgetheman123 New Member

    I have no problem whatsoever in approaching women and asking them on dates, the thing is (as I said) I always fail at maintaining a relationship because my libido is dead. I don't need a libido lessener because I have no libido, I need it to become normal again, I hate feeling like I'm chemically castrated...
     
  4. doneatlast

    doneatlast Active Member

    Did you quit masturbation too? I've heard on these boards stories about how people quit porn but don't get any of the promised rebooting benefits, and it is often because they keep more or less the same masturbation schedule, just without porn. For whatever reason (I have my theories, but I won't go in too deep), if someone only ever masturbated they'd be better off, but since they're coming off of a porn addiction, they need to get rid of it all in order to properly reboot.

    It is also worth noting that a proper reboot DOES reorient what your libido looks like. Imagine you're obese and living on junk food. You go on a diet, it is successful, and you lose a bunch of weight. In the process, your taste buds change, and provided you don't deliberately change your actions, you don't crave the junk food in the same way any more. Porn is similar. When we get it out of our lives, we don't crave sexual stimulation in the same way because we're not feeding it in the same way. If you fantasized about kinky 3-somes with midgets and a giraffe while watching porn but don't want it now, consider it a bonus to rebooting. It brings me back to the first question too, because continued masturbation without porn can leave you in a weird limbo state where the porn stuff doesn't appeal, but your most genuine appetites haven't redeveloped amidst it yet.
     
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  5. BackOnTrack

    BackOnTrack Member

    Quitting just porn won't help much until you stop fapping aswell for at least 90 days.
     
  6. jorgetheman123

    jorgetheman123 New Member

    I only fap like once a month with fantasy, if anything at all
     
  7. Perigee

    Perigee Member

    Maca, tribulus, longjack, horny goat weed, ashwagandha, panax ginseng, NO boosters, and zinc are all the ones I know of. Some of these do have actual evidence for raising libido, especially maca. Zinc is the most effective at raising T.

    Daily low dose cialis is effective too since it will make you have stronger erections which indirectly increases libido for obvious reasons.
     
    Last edited: May 21, 2019 at 4:18 PM

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