What made you decide to quit?

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by joelski, Nov 1, 2013.

  1. joelski

    joelski New Member

    I decided to quit when I realized that my addiction led to me alienating my wife who just recently divorced me because of it.

    Now I want to have a healthy happy relationship with another woman and not have to hide a shameful PMO addiction.
     
  2. syndaren

    syndaren New Member

    When I realized that the only way for me to get hard is to sex chat on omegle.
    And when I realized that I no longer can have a proper erection while watching vanilla porn or to make matters worse - while being close to the woman I love.
     
  3. Stopper

    Stopper IT'S OVER!!!

    Now why did I attempt to reboot in the first place? Hmmm...........Well really YBOP.com I just happened to stumble on through Google, I believe I was googling for some things I was experiencing, like anxiety and stuff like that. From there on I found YBOP.com and I just...a new world opened up to me. I would have NEVER thought porn could have had such an impact on me, until I realized I used porn to cover up SO many things like feelings and frustration. I then read all the articles, met Uncle Bob on the left with all the random facts and I was fascinated from then on. Fascinated in that I wanted to learn as much as possible on what the hell I had been feeding my head for so long!

    I decided to quit once I realized I had the ''urge'' to PMO when I first decided to try this reboot. I never found myself being addicted to anything before, so this hit my pride...
    That was just the light bulb moment where I realized hey...this isn't right, I got a problem.
    So there I went to try and fix it, not realizing I would stumble on a lot of bumpy roads.

    You can read about all the science behind it, which is motivating at first. But I learned the most from the times I failed to do the reboot. You learn what triggers you, you learn your weaknesses, you learn that your brain is like a pet animal(seriously). In the way that it is a dog on a leash, if it sees another dog(porn) it will shout and try to run towards it, to play with it, because it is stimulated and gets excited. I learned that I am not the dog(the brain). I am the person controlling it and holding the leash. We learn to control the leash and discipline the dog to our standards.

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  4. TheNthAddict

    TheNthAddict New Member

    I read articles on YBOP, and noticed that a lot of the stuff they were saying in regards to escalation, desensitization, how it messes with your mood, how it reduces your drive to go out and do things... A lot of it rang true for me. So I decided to quit. I didn't consider myself flat-out addicted to porn at the time, but since then, having experienced how insanely difficult this process is, (In two hours or so it will be sixteen full days since I last masturbated or watched porn. Only once have I ever made it to this point before) I can safely say that, yes, I am indeed addicted. Badly. Which has certainly made it all that much clearer that I need to quit this, but it definitely hasn't made it any easier to keep myself in check.
     
  5. CidGuerreiro

    CidGuerreiro Well-Known Member

    ED, pure and simple.
     
  6. SelfControl2013

    SelfControl2013 "Infinite patience produces Immediate results"

    great question,

    initially because i wanted to pratice self control,

    then i did it because of moral reasons that it wasnt very "spiritual"

    finally the biggest realization came, when i went without PMO for a couple of months
    i felt a new sense of confidence, stillness and calmness and confidence, and right
    after i masterbated to porn, i felt a big drop from my sense of meaning, puropse and
    excitement for life, so this was the big motivator,

    I feel the few seconds of supposed pleasure is not worth living life without meaning/full confidence.

    also i want to be a porn free guy for my future long term gf, and i want to be part of the solution to the world not part of the problem.

    Also now iv been doing alot of research about guys and porn addiction, and I was watching some videos of some guys on youtube who were cought watching porn, and now when i think guys sit behind their computer and jerk off to a digital pixells on a screen and drain their energy out , i dunno there is something incredibly unattractive about it, and the whole thing seems incredibly painful and stupid.
     
  7. randomname

    randomname Guest

    I wanna be happy
     
  8. Bane

    Bane The destroyer of worlds

    I had no guilt or shame toward porn. In fact I was building up a huge 100GB+ collection(most of which I didn't even watch).
    One day while browsing fmylife.com I saw an FML about a girl having to deal with her boyfriend's porn addiction. That struck me as strange, until that point I'd never thought of porn as an addiction.

    I immediately googled porn addiction out of curiosity and stumbled upon YBOP. After reading a lot of stuff I identified with everything, it was almost a relief to find out there was an explanation to my f***ed up lifestyle and social issues. I immediately deleted my stash and began trying to quit. Been trying ever since.
     
  9. bethechange

    bethechange New Member

    Hitting rock bottom, sick of life with it, losing money I was spending, not being able to have a proper relationship, wasting my life, feeling as anxious as a crack smoker post-pmo, depression, erectile dysfunction, being late for/missing appointments, college, meeting friends, going out, low testosterone, feeling worthless while doing it.
     
  10. dig deep

    dig deep must stop wasting my life on porn

    for me its the time wasted and the fear of sexual failure with a woman,also i knew i was watching to much porn when i wasnt in the mood but still watch porn
     
  11. Fiddler

    Fiddler Active Member

    Sheer grief that came with it. I just decided that I couldn't lose days of my life crying and being depressed because I masturbated. The pain surpassed the pleasure.
     
  12. Two things really - the amount of time I have wasted over the years is truly terrifying. The other one is that I hate the way I have become so pervy. I go to the gym and feel like I am just prowling around looking at ass. I have a horrible nagging feeling that some of them view me as that creepy guy.
     
  13. Aaron92

    Aaron92 New Member

    Well here is my story


    I began looking at porn on and off at the age of about 15, towards the end of my GCSEs (UK school exams done at the age of 16). I would go home, and fap a lot once I'd finished school. Over the years, porn became a kind of pseudo- 'best friend' for me, and I never really thought that it could be a problem.

    I discovered the Reddit Nofap thread by good luck about 2 months ago, and it linked to Yourbrainonporn. I had been considering reducing my PMO habit for a few months, but I never knew that porn was so addictive, and I showed many signs of addiction. I've always been a very moderate drinker, and I never smoke or take drugs. Anyway, I watched the informative and honest videos on Yourbrainonporn, and I began to realise why I was:

    1. Looking at more and more graphic images
    2. Wasting lots of time edging
    3. Having withdrawal symptoms when I was unable to access porn (due to going on holiday etc)

    I never told anyone about my PMO habit until about a month ago, when I told a trusted female friend, and she was quite understanding.



     
  14. joelski

    joelski New Member

    I just wanted to say, thanks to all who shared your story. Even if you relapse, you have not failed!!!

    Failing is falling into an addictive cycle and not even trying to get out of it. Just by being a part of this site shows you want to get better- and I applaud you all for it. It takes a lot of courage and hard work to beat a PMO addiction.
     
  15. sambob99

    sambob99 Guest

    Probably when the only way i could orgasm with a woman was by hiding my hand and making jerking off motions !!
     
  16. calmwinter

    calmwinter Guest

    Lack of privacy
     
  17. Ablaze

    Ablaze New Member

    Realizing I suffered from nearly all the symptoms of porn addiction and how it was affecting my social life, work, etc.
     

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