**Weekly Challenge Thread (Week 6)**

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by NatureHeals, Jan 22, 2017.

  1. le_petit_moster

    le_petit_moster Active Member

    Dear Mescalito...
    Good work !!!. You used delay/escape which is one of the techniques in DEADS ( DELAY, ESCAPE, ACCEPT,DISPUTE AND SUBSTITUTE).
    I'd recommend that after using this good technique you may want to go up higher to more elegant level methods where you work on your philosophy on the whole. For a more refined and longer lasting solution I'd suggest you pinpoint and keep a journal of what self-talks you use when you are in the 'urge' period.
    If you want to - you can look into the TUC cycle- where thoughts lead to urge and urge lead to cravings.
    A Method that stops you at the T level is good for you in the long run and will leave you with the level of willpower that the it found you in the first place.
    Wishing you well ...cheers.
     
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  2. NatureHeals

    NatureHeals Active Member

    You never need to apologise. Your one of the most encouraging guy on the thread and I know your intentions are always meant well. I'm sorry If I came across rude, it wasn't my intention.
     
  3. le_petit_moster

    le_petit_moster Active Member

    Dear Nature.. not at all !!! As I said in my private message to you... we are on the same page.
    It is absolutely important to have that ' elated ' mood that Allen Carr insists that one has right at the beginning itself.
    What good is it for our readers to feel MaG - miserable and guilty ? Only to fall back to the prison of PMO ?
    No.. NO.. if readers could distinguish between slip-lapse-relapse. Take care of the TUC - at the thought level.
    I am here for the same reasons as you are. We are good.
    Cheers and good weekend... you are a good man.
     
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  4. NatureHeals

    NatureHeals Active Member

    so I thought I saw this girl (that rejected me) with a guy yday, it hurt me. Messaged her late last night and no reply (she replied today). being hurt and boredom, I relented and didn't meet this weeks challenge. I'm sorry to myself and to you guys. But somethings changed, Since the weekly challenges I don't have the same compulsion towards my addiction. Anyway watch me next week, were I will pass my weekly challenge!

    How is everyone? Its the weekend so boredom can kick in! Please post an update tommorow so I can mark down your achievements :)
    also I will take the next week challengers tommorow. Good luck, last two days, keep strong
     
  5. Steamengine

    Steamengine Member

    No accidental Porn style images of celebrities or anyone else for that matter.
     
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  6. NatureHeals

    NatureHeals Active Member

    Welcome Steamengine
    I've added your weekly challenge.
    You will get a weekly badge on completion of this week challenge, even though there is 1 day left.
    I recommend posting a short (even 1 sentence) update on wednesdays, fridays and thursdays.
    You are part of the group now so tell us your ups and down and take each weeks challenge knowing you have the support of the group.
    I'm glad you joined.
    Please post tommorow on your intention to join week 6 challenge :)
    btw AMAZING achievement on 164 days! your strength will grow the groups strength
     
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  7. Caesura

    Caesura Member

    I'll try one.

    No PMO
    <2 MO
    ~15 min Facebook/day
    eat some veggies

    (please add me to next week's challenge, since this week ends today)
     
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  8. NatureHeals

    NatureHeals Active Member

    @ Caesura
    Welcome, next weeks challenge will be posted on this thread tommorow, you will be added to next weeks challenge.
    I really like your challenges! I'll keep an eye on your future challenges. You can do it!
     
  9. no pmo for a week
     
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  10. NatureHeals

    NatureHeals Active Member

    @thedrownedworld Welcome. You are the 19th challenger! Your challenge is added for next week. Go for it!
     
  11. NatureHeals

    NatureHeals Active Member

    RESULTS DAY

    End of week 5 is tomorrow.
    We had an amazing group (and great support) this week,
    up from 7 in week-4
    to 17 this week (with 2 more already signed up for week 6) AMAZING THANKYOU

    A reminder of everyone's challenge.
    WEEK 5 CHALLENGERS (17)

    1/ **niskanen91 - Challenge (no pmo rest of week)
    2/ *NewTerritories - Challenge (Max 2.5 hours of PMO)
    3/ *Wabi-sabi - Challenge (no sexual fantasy)
    4/ *hope2overcome - Challenge - NO MO , more limitations on touching, peeking and fantasizing
    5/ *TheLongWalk - Challenge (No PMO, No peeking)
    6/ NatureHeals - Challenge (no pornography, one masturbation/no fantasy on friday)
    7/ Mescalito Challenge (no porn and Masturbation just one time a day max)
    8/ Billy B - Challenge (no ogling. This means looking at women (in real life or on billboards, whatever) for more than a passing, appreciative glance)
    9/ staythecourse - Challenge (No PMO/chasing after women in public/forced interactions with women. One effortless interaction per day with a woman)
    10/ Rex - Challenge (No PMO/ pray 3 Rosaries (Joyful, Sorrowful, and Glorious Mysteries) everyday)
    11/ susheelramadoss - Challenge (No pmo or just watching porn,also no form of oogling women in my vicinity)
    12/ Londoner - Challenge (No P or MO at all)
    13/ SRL - Challenge (No peeking)
    14/ Mik2 - Challenge (Mo <=3, Pmo <=1, Vanilla hardcore and safe fetishes only, avoiding extreme/violent cateogories)
    15/ DMB - Challenge (- no P/- no P subs/- no M/- no dirty talk/- no sex fantasy)
    16/ yearofchange - Challenge (no PMO and no MO, but O with a girl is allowed)
    17/ Steamengine - Challenge (No accidental Porn style images of celebrities or anyone else for that matter)

    Please post a little update

    i/ did you pass your challenge, If so congratualtions! if not what happened? what have you learnt.
    ii/ did you find doing the challenge help you in anyway and why
    iii/ Would you like to enter week 6 Weekly Challenge? If so please post your week 6 Challenge

    I will ask for Weekly Results day every Sunday midnight and ask for reaffirmation on your challenge for the proceeding week along with your updates. Weekly badges will be given when I start the new Challengers list.
    I will start creating new list as of now and update the weekly badges for successful challengers as you update your progress.so expect first post of this thread to change.


    I encourage challengers to post a little update (even a sentence) wednesdays, fridays and results day sundays. getting in the habit of checking in just reminds yourself of your challenge :)

    WILL WE BEAT OUR LAST WEEK RECORD OF 4 CHALLENGERS PASSING THE WEEKLY CHALLENGE?
    THANKYOU EVERYONE THAT JOINED THE SUPPORT GROUP. I REALLY FELT THE POSITIVE ENERGY.
    "I am stronger than my challenges and my challenges are making me stronger"
     
    Last edited: Jan 29, 2017
  12. NatureHeals

    NatureHeals Active Member

    This is optional but I recommend challengers to place their challenge in their signature. Having your challenge written down will remind you of it. :) like mine :D
     
  13. Mik2

    Mik2 Aka NwaltRed

    Failed this one but making progress.
    Pmo'd 2 times thursday, nothing at all yesterday, no extreme genres.

    Don't want to make excuses but my sleep schedule is all messed, sleep dep and excessive caffeine likely played a role on thursday. Trying to readjust my sleep with naps rather than caffeine.
     
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  14. NatureHeals

    NatureHeals Active Member

    Thanks for your update Mik2
    As long as your making progress then you have not failed :) also no extreme genres is really good!
    Would you like me to add your same Challenge for week 6?

    EDIT: you only missed your challenge by 1 PMO, and still have one MO left. If you have an urge tommorow, make sure you only allow MO and not PMO :)

    "Don't want to make excuses but my sleep schedule is all messed, sleep dep and excessive caffeine likely played a role on thursday. Trying to readjust my sleep with naps rather than caffeine."
    were only hear to give encouragement and support, not to judge.
    You've seen a pattern to your behaviour and made plans to not fall into them again. That is progress! well done
     
    Last edited: Jan 28, 2017
  15. hope2overcome

    hope2overcome No Love, No Sex

    I fucked up. Mo'd twice consecutive days.
     
  16. niskanen91

    niskanen91 Active Member

    i/ did you pass your challenge

    Yes ;) It's 1 month and 3 days without PMO for me atm.

    ii/ did you find doing the challenge help you in anyway and why

    Well, it's another step towards regaining erectile function and healthy libido. I would do it without any challenges to be honest because I am motivated as f**k to be able to have healthy intimacy with women but challenge was still a nice help.

    iii/ Would you like to enter week 6 Weekly Challenge? If so please post your week 6 Challenge

    Yes, goal remains the same - no PMO at all :)
     
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  17. NatureHeals

    NatureHeals Active Member

    Your still fighting so you can still succeed and 17 days was amazing streak hope2overcome, which you should be proud of. Quitting isn't a straight line but little bumps.
    "I avoid looking forward or backward, and try to keep looking upward.” – Charlotte Brontë
    You in for week 6 and get your second badge? Name your challenge

    also do you want to talk about why you think you relapsed? talking might help also what steps will you take next time you think you might relapse
     
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  18. NatureHeals

    NatureHeals Active Member

    absolutely amazing niskanen91, your on your 3rd badge and at the top of the badge board and over a month! Keep us updated about your health. I've heard many people say they have regained full health after quitting PMO. Added your challenge :)
     
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  19. FuturePerfect

    FuturePerfect Member

    Well, if everything goes well, I'll state the following:

    1 PMO in the entire week. With that lone exception, zero looking to any P or H site. That means 6 days whose time is going to be devoid of pleasure seeking and spent somewhere else.
    1 cup of coffee per day, compared to my three caffeine servings as of now.
    If consuming beer, limiting it to a single pint or 500 mL version per day. No second servings.

    Since saying "not X" pretty much means arguing for X, I need to set some positive goals going:
    • Getting the beer brewing numbers and math right (I'm on that project).
    • Planting a group of seeds in a pot and start watering and caring for them in order to grow.
    • Studying the ins and outs of solar cells so at least I can get the proper size and potential uses in the future.
     
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  20. NatureHeals

    NatureHeals Active Member

    @ FuturePerfect Welcome :) I have added your weekly challenge. btw I love your positive goals, its making me want to challenge myself to do something. You can do it! Also I've done an undergraduate degree in Maths so let me know how you get on that math project I might be able to help. :)
     

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