Hello! Today marks an official success story of my reboot and rewiring process: For the first time in my life, I am able to achieve/ maintain an erection and orgasm to vaginal sex WITH a condom on. This has been one, if not THE ONE, reason why I'm trying to quit pornography. Eight years ago I suffered from what many of us have experienced: severe PIDE and PIED. I was NOT wired to real, warm blooded women. My first attempt at sex was a complete failure. And, instead of seeking help, I retreated into a world of MORE porn for years. It was until I met my latest girlfriend that I realized that my DE and ED was still a problem. I really had to rewire to a real woman and quit porn. Over a course of a year 2016, I rebooted and rewired with my gf. It wasn't easy! I flatlined for months. I relapsed plenty. I slowly built a sexual response - kissing, touching, handjobs, blowjobs, penetrative sex. Then today happened: Details (warning: triggers): this morning was a fun process. Of course, I still "failed" to penetrate my gf in some positions. I still "failed" to penetrate her with a condom at first. Over a course of a few hours, my erections were going hard /soft/ hard depending on the stimulation. What we did was play and laugh and experimented - I got hard and had sex in positions that we felt comfortable in. Having sex without a condom was much easier; I was able to enjoy various positions and felt confident that I could come. I wanted to come inside a condom. So we tried positions that worked. After several "failed" attempts using condoms, we finally got into a great situation. I felt hard and ready, and was able to penetrate. Soon enough, I orgasm and came a lot! She came too, but in different positions and to different strokes. When positions or my erections quality weren't working: we took breaks! And, I think, that was the key to calming my performance anxiety, especially when I started using a condom. Remember: Porn habits and Performance Anxiety go hand-in-hand. I think that's why a lot of guys who reboot for a long time still have DE or ED problems. Yes, our brains have changed against porn. BUT our fears about failing sex still remain. Nothing kills a boner quicker than fear and being "serious" about sex. Sex and rewiring is about discovery. HAVE FUN! TAKE BREAKS! TRY DIFFERENT POSITIONS! LAUGH! KISS! HUG! Of course, you have to find a partner who's willing to participate with you. However, I believe she or he is not-so-difficult to find so as long as you are honest about yourself. A partner who is not supportive isn't a partner worth keeping around in your life! I look forward to having more sex with my gf. More importantly, I am so grateful to know that I can have kids. That I can start a family one day. That I can enjoy something that is SUPPOSED to be enjoyable. HUGE THANKS to my girlfriend, to Gary Wilson, Gabe Deem, Noah Church, Mark Queppet, Alex Rhodes, YBR radio (Charlee, Gameover, ApeMan,), Anthony Decide, Ajax, Hayden Rose, No Fap Movement, and everyone on this forum. Yearofchange and LilJ thanks for responding to my posts. My journey of NOFap isn't over - I don't think it'll ever be until the day I die. BUT having successful sex with someone I love was a goal that I wanted to strive for. And, now, it's a goal that I have achieved. Love Deezy
Hi, great story!! I have a couple questions for you that could potentially help me out since I've been at this for a little of a year myself. I'm 21 and currently have a girlfriend who is helping me rewire. But I've read so many different forums and accounts that give conflicting advice about orgasming with a partner to rewire. During the past year for you, did you orgasm to rewire? And if you did, did you find it helpful (or what about rewiring did you find most helpful) and how often would you orgasm to rewire? Would really appreciate any advice and insight you can provide as like I said I've been at this for a bit over a year and am still struggling - it's off and on between being able to get about 60% hard and having ok sex (in only a couple positions) to not getting hard enough at all. And I'm definitely feeling all the side effects of being nervous and anxious constantly and short of breath. As another side note I have not relapsed once with porn during this time.
Congratulations on your success, when you flatlined, did you still attempt to rewire? Despite shrinkage/dead dick?
To Burnerphone I rewired despite dead dick. Kissing, touching, getting naked, and getting comfortable to my girlfriend definitely helps during flatline moments. The most difficult part is being open about your situation with you partner. If she is cool with it, then keep kissing and touching. Eventually, sooner than I thought, my dick started coming back to life. No porn. No jerking off. Rewiring and having fun with your partner(s) is the best medicine IMO. - Deezy
Aye, thanks for the response and for confirming my theory. I've got the noporn/nofap down pretty easily, it's the rewiring aspect that I am lacking. I'm sure you'll continue to improve over time, would love to read future updates of yours.
