@Saville and @Bobo I take your points and to an extent I agree with you. Whatever happened in the past has gone and we may as well concentrate on the 'here and now'. The reason I mentioned childhood trauma is because I recently started therapy and was asked questions about this during a session. So far I haven't been able to identify a definite link between a specific trauma and my addictive behaviours and I'm not sure if I'll find one. So why go looking? This question is best answered via some text from my therapist: "Where trauma experiences are pushed under the carpet ie not processed or dealt with in a meaningful way, they have a common habit of trying to break out. I once heard the metaphorical idea of a snake under a rug which just moves position when the lump is trodden down. In other words, the trauma doesn't go away by itself, it just keeps making its presence known in a wide variety of symptoms, all of which may lead to the need for self-medicating compulsive behaviours such as sex and porn addictions. Trauma experiences and memories of them are often thought of as being 'locked up' in the emotional part of the brain and therefore requiring unlocking, 'digesting' or processing."