hey realness, for me it's not so much dulled me down, but more of a loss of intimacy. My wife stays in her room and i in mine. i feel she knows or senses my "secret". especially with my failed attempts with PIED. i don't even try to initiate sex anymore knowing the result-ED. i feel less than. rejected. after 42 yrs of marriage she says "it;s okay" "sex isn't the only thing in a marriage" but i know she is like any other woman and has needs. so i keep holding on. hoping someday, don't know when, i will resensitize and be able to perform. sometimes this very thing is my excuse for PMO. which sets me even farther back on the road to recovery. vicious cycle-hallmark of a potent addiction. my 2 cents worth.