Time to heal

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by forlorn, Nov 28, 2018.

  1. forlorn

    forlorn Well-Known Member

    It's been a mixed few days. Not perfect in terms of recovery but overall a positive shift in the right direction.

    Thanks, I'm still working on ingraining these values and I do feel as if they're starting to give me a sense of identity and a foundation for decision making. Even if I slip up (which I inevitably will at some point) it won't feel as if I am back to square one. I am trying to focus on managing my life (rather than managing my addiction). There's a lot more to be done and while I feel a little anxious I'm also excited about the future.
     
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  2. Gil79

    Gil79 Seize the day

    Interesting. I read (I think in Maxwell Maltz' psychocybernetics) that anxiety is actually excitement and that this change of view can really help you to deal with that.
     
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  3. Boxer17

    Boxer17 Active Member

    Good thought!
     
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  4. NCBob

    NCBob The 11th commandment: Thou shalt not peek:-)

    When we focus on the problem, it becomes more of a problem. When we focus on the solution, it becomes more of a solution. Our lives are our solution. We just need to recognize what living our lives entails:)
     
  5. NCBob

    NCBob The 11th commandment: Thou shalt not peek:-)

    yes, anxiety is excitement on steroids, which means we're overloaded with excitement, when we're anxious. I have found that slowing myself down, using deep breathing, getting quiet time, rest, etc., helps me bring my anxiety down to a manageable level such that I actually feel excited, rather than uncomfortable with anxiety.
     
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  6. forlorn

    forlorn Well-Known Member

    Hi, hope you're all doing well in these difficult times. Realised I haven't posted here since in almost 3 weeks so thought I should check in. I haven't been doing any recovery work lately - but nor have I been looking at porn. Guess, like many others I'm trying to come to terms with what's been going on in the world. I'd be lying if I said it hadn't impacted me psychologically. While I perhaps didn't have the most active social life it does feel unusual to be under lockdown. I was in the habit of going to the supermarket every day on my bicycle and now it feels strange to think that something as simple as that carries risks. So I've been mainly staying indoors, My use of social media has increased. My WhatsApp notifications are pinging more than ever before and everyone is going on about Apps like House-Party, and Zoom. I did briefly enjoy the experience of communicating with a group of friends via Zoom but the House-Party app felt rather contrived. Overall I don't think the increased use of these apps has made me feel less lonely. Today I will take a step back from social media, I intended to focus on simple pleasures such as gardening and doing something creative like painting.
     
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  7. Gil79

    Gil79 Seize the day

    That sounds really good. Social media are a waste of time. Like porn has nothing to do with sex, there is nothing social about social media. If you want to share some intimacy with friends and family: call them.
     

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