DAY 1 Right, i just relapsed after 3 days my longest streak has been 2 weeks. I just seem to either give up, because i've got no pleasure in my life or i just have nothing to do (even though i have a brilliant girlfriend). But when i do give up, i just seem to have barely any urge to actually do so, so i've definitely got to find something to replace this addiction. I don't even masturbate over porn which is good, but my erections are weak and i ruin a streak because of my low mood and anxiety. things to do: - find new hobbies - get a job - try to live a little - go to bed much earlier - block out thoughts on masturbating even though there is no urge to.
You have half of the way to quit. Drop the day counter. Count relapses per month instead. As you said, make a replacement for the addiction. Looks like from your list you have a few things to improve on. So get started.
@Slam Figure out why you are an addict...not specifically a PMO addict, but why you developed into someone who needed a crutch that led to addiction. Your addiction is just the symptom of a bigger issue, usually lingering trauma. You can try this dopamine fasting stuff that some guys swear by, but even if they stop with the PMO, that doesn't make them "cured". You don't cure an addiction, you manage it. Get yourself some real help with a therapist and don't worry about whether the unproven pseudoscience is going to work or not.
That's what I found with this post a while ago. https://yourbrainrebalanced.com/for...ughts-on-rebooting-extremely-long-post.15558/ Why am I an addict? Cause I got no social life and I can't look most women in the eye for 5 seconds. Cause I'm a loner pervert. Yeah, I know why I have this shit. Cause I uselessly spend 4 years tracking a stupid number. I'm just dealing with it now because I don't feel like I have any point in actually suppressing urges. Now I'm falling behind in school because I loose my time to it. What would you do as a introverted loner who can't make friends or seem to find a person who shares their interests?
@thepmokiller490 That's not why you're an addict. That's just negative self-talk that is part of your addictive behavior. I don't know what your interests are, but I bet that you are not soooooooo unique nobody else in the world has them. You should be able to find plenty of people online, if not locally who share your interests. When I say figure out what you are an addict, I don't really mean to do it on your own. You can't be objective enough at this point. You need to get some professional help, and even if it turns out you aren't an addict, your negative self-talk is something you should address with a therapist. It's not a bad thing to be an introverted loner, but if you're suffering from it, maybe a case can be made you're not an introverted loner at all and it's just that you've fell into this position. Get some help and figure out how you got to the place you're at today. It's hard work, but it's so rewarding when it starts to take root. Good luck.
Here's my question. Who could help me? What do I look up? How much is it? I'm broke right now so who could actually help me? That's if I somehow get motivated enough to tell my dad about this stuff. If I am going to go through with this, I'd like to know where I'd go.
Here's my question. Who could help me? What do I look up? How much is it? I'm broke right now so who could actually help me? That's if I somehow get motivated enough to tell my dad about this stuff. If I am going to go through with this, I'd like to know where I'd go. (Also why are we in this random forum?)
@thepmokiller490 Who knows how we end up where we are. The important thing is we get there...or some such bullshit. I have no idea where you are so I can't be too specific with my help, but I'd urge you search the telephone book for therapists. Or search online. If you can't find any that will take your insurance or your dad won't help you, look for a 12-step group like Sex Addicts Anonymous. If you like this online thing, Reddit has some very specific forums. I'd also suggest you do things like volunteer. Unless you live at the top of a mountain and have no way of getting down there are probably a million different ways you can help out in your community. That's one way that you'll meet people and feel like you have a purpose. Call the local homeless shelter, or meals on wheels or talk to the people at your church. Look up any service organizations or charities in your town and ask them about volunteering.
