So this weekend it happend, I was with this cool girl. Fooling around, a lot of touching a lot of kissing. We had sex and I couldn't finish, nor could I have been fully hard. I spent all day the next day feeling sorry myself and feeling depressed. It was then I realized I have a bjg BIG PROBLEM. I want to get over this and push through. Anyone have any ideas on how to start getting better? Any advice or tips will help thank you so much.
Thinking you have a "big problem" is probably undermining your efforts. Be kind to yourself. Shit like that happens all the time. The mind is a wonderful/terrible thing. Hope this helps. You did say any advice.
Hey @Gbabe2765. Great that you have taken the first steps by coming on here. I have come to see disillusionment as a positive thing - now you know there is something going on you can start to fix it. I have found it helpful to read up on the subject. Go to https://www.yourbrainonporn.com and check out the "start here" section. Draw your own conclusions. All the best man
To second TroyTempest, you're being too hard on yourself. I totally get being hard on yourself, but it's counterproductive. The more you let this freak you out ('"BIG PROBLEM"), the harder it'll be to relax. And you're not going to be able to perform unless you're at least somewhat relaxed. Chin up, homie. You're 42 days without porn? That's awesome. You're doing great, so if you can, laugh off the nerves of last weekend and see what that cool girl is up to this weekend.
Yeah, I have a tip for you; stop fooling around with girls. Your problem likely isn't as big as you make it out to be, but messing around with girls sexually is a recipe for trouble. Go for a wife. Whats yours is yours, what isn't isn't.
