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DAY 10

Withdrawal symptomes are continueing.

I had 2 wet dreams in these days and i dreamed about porn today :/

The fight is hard but i'm still here

 

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DAY 13

I am more social , i can talk with people for long time and slightly more confident

Libido is still low

P.S. Girls that before i didn't like now look beautiful :O

 

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This week´s topic. Check it from the first post.

 

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Hey guys, sorry for being inactive.

I am trying to take off some time from this forum. It took me a while (and some relapses) to find this out:
Not thinking of avoiding porn is better that constant worrying about relapsing, blocking porn sites etc. There is SO much more awesome stuff to do. With this midset you can reach a large number of days easily.
This forum gave me a really positive attitude for life, so now I am really benefitting from that.

Daily questions would be a good idea though.

 

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Today I relapsed...

I was on day 16 , I had for24hours the urge to see naked woman
I started going on dating site then i went to porn and relapsed...

In these last days i was beginning to see i provements and i was happy

You don 't know how much is addicting this shit till you arrive to this point

 

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I'm a seventeen year old male. I have an adiction to Masturebation, Touching women, and violent porn. I have recently ruined some friendships and lost sight of what's important. I would like to join this group for support. Thank you. My whole story is in my journal. http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=11216.msg192834#msg192834

 

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Hey guys! Sorry that I´ve been unactive but I was on a road trip and had no access to internet at that time.

I´m going to listen Jer now and quit weekly questions and start with daily questions. Fortunately it´s Monday ( although it´s late ) so we can start on a clear table. Today´s question is:

Who´s your mama? Nah, just messing with you. The real question is:

Should we start a weekly challenge kind of thing?

I say yes.

 

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Good idea, but what would you suggest for these challenges?

 

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Well for example that everyone should talk to 5 random girls within a week. That´s just an example and if you have already a girlfriend then I think there´s no point for you to do the challenge but I think none of us has a girlfriend.

You can suggest your own challenge ideas too.

 

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I want to join you guys

I am 19 years old, have masturbated since i was 12 and since than was anxious about how good at sex could I be till I turned 15 and had sex first time in my life. But before I had sex i was trying my best to masturbate as much as I could because i thought it was what made me a better lover. So the frenzy of masturbation started at 13 years and before i turned 15 i was already watching some really extreme porn. The most funny part is that i was really happy that i could masturbate to the stuff that at first disgusted me. Yesterday I relapsed after 7 days of without any porn. Though the good part of it is that i am not horny anymore and can clearly see what's wrong with me. But when i am really horny i forget about everything everything. only thing i can think about is hardcore porn. today i masturbated as well but without using porn. i consider masturbating once in every two weeks so i don't go insane. i guess what i need the most is to get rid of all that porn images in my mind and then socializing again.

BTW after 7 days of no masturbation my libido was increased and headaches were gone though i only noticed it when they came back after masturbating.

 

Numbe67 and merhab you´re in.

How much time you use in a day here in yourbrainrebalanced?

Actively like 30mins I guess, reading others posts, commenting on them and writing stuff to this group and to my own journal. I usually am on my computer at evenings so I keep this site open but I´m doing other stuff on other sites and checking this site once in a while, seeing if there´s new posts. My usage of this site has lowered much since I started but I think I´m still using too much time here.

Also guys, I´m out of motivation again. I don´t have the energy go back and read all the stuff that why I should stop this, I used so much time on it two months ago. I want to quit this, I really do. But when the urges come, my mind doesn´t find any powerful enough thought that would stop me. It also starts to find excuses " you can´t fight against me forever " or " you will get prostate cancer because you aren´t masturbating ". Should I get a porn blocker? I haven´t use it because I thought that I will heal faster if I don´t have to use anything to block it, just pure willpower. I need your support now, I´m tired of fighting alone and not achieving what I want.

 

you know i really think that no masturbation at all is just impossible. and for us, teenagers especially. everyone masturbates who doesn't have sex. it is natural. what we have to do is to masturbate much less and always be aware that masturbation is not same as sex. what i am fighting is a hardcore pornography that is destroying my mind.

also I would like to say it is important not to stop. if you can last without masturbating one month challenge yourself to either get a girl or last without masturbation for longer periods. eventually we will start to like the thrill of challenge. porn and masturbation aren't themselves a problem, it is our lifestyle that is problematic. if some one other has a real life, why don't we have it? we must demand it from OURSELVES and no one else. our life is all about those thrills that we get from trying to accomplish something difficult and the exciting feeling that we get the moment we accomplish something. main reason why we felt to this addiction is the fear of life itself. when i remember days of my childhood i ask myself, why the hell did i ended up being so shy and insecure? i lost my self esteem, i lost believe in myself and lost that vast life energy i used to have. but it is all temporal. we still can go to the place where we should have been right now. and we won't just return to that place, we will also have this experience and much better understanding of life. we haven't lost yet. we just need to take a big step to our future.

 

Those are wise words and it has truth in it. But I also like to thing that one of the biggest reasons why people watch porn and masturbate at the same time is because they are bored. I think it´s impossible to avoid those moments in life when you have nothing to do and are bored. PMO is fast, easy, free and always exciting, that´s why it´s so easily addictive. But maybe this was a bit what you were trying to say because PMO is a way out of that boring situation so in a way we are escaping that feeling and not accepting that life is sometimes boring.

Escaping is bad because you aren´t actually helping yourself in a long term, you are just pushing that feeling of boringness into the future where it will come again. It´s like a cycle. But maybe we should stop for a moment in those " boring " times and think why we are bored. Are we bored because we don´t have much going on in our lives? What we want in our lives then? So in a way, being bored is a great opportunity to just relax and think what you would like to do. And maybe after thinking it, you just might do what you thought!

But I agree with you and believe that " fear of life " sums up this addiction.

 

How much time do I spend here. I am about 15 minutes in the morning and 30 in the evening. Checking every 2-3 hours for updates.

 

guys anyone doing recovery nations workshop? when reading i feel like i have already know it all, BUT couldn't see the whole picture. i mean it sums everything and it doesn't let me have a wrong thought. because of lack of focus i can't read with full attention and wind up in a different place. but when reading this stuff all my excuses fail to pass my mind. you should really try it. it is a true wisdom.

 

This shit works!

Two days ago i came with only girl's job, without fapping, and lasted 10 minutes with blowjob
It's the first time that i don't need to Fap to cum and i feel very happy for this

I had slightly ED and always DE (lasting hour with MAX 60% erection and had to fap for long time to cum) This made feel me angry and shame because i could see the sadness of girls when they couldn't make me cum, and now it's all gone!

I'm only at 10 days strike and i'm fixing. What will happen at day 90? And day 200? I'll find it

 

I´m sorry guys but I just don´t have the energy to organize this thread. I would gladly give some other member the administrator title but I don´t know is that even possible so um... I won´t add any weekly stuff or questions like that. You can use this if you want or make one of yourself if you want. It´s just that I´m not the man to carry this thread at the moment.

 

hey guys - join us for the totally FREE telephone conference call support meeting tomorrow at 10 a.m. PST 1 pm EST:

http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=10398.0