The Young Guns [ GROUP ]: 7 spots left

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by Youngfella, Jun 15, 2013.

  1. Youngfella

    Youngfella Active Member

    This group is for those who are 19 year old or younger. I think more is better so this group will have 14 places left to fill. If you want to join, just post and I will add you.

    This group is basically for support. You can freely share your thoughts, your progress, ideas how to possibly improve this thread etc.

    I think it would be helpful that everyone would shortly tell about their current progress on rebooting. So I start. You can read my journal if you want to know the whole story so far but shortly, I´ve tried to quit since April. At the beginning I had long streaks but then abstaining even one week became hard. Now I´m on the best roll since April. My recent goal is to not watch porn or masturbate till this months 26 day or I won´t allow myself to watch Man of Steel in theaters. Of course if I get there I won´t stop but you get the idea. :D

    We all have one thing in common and that is getting porn out of our lives. Let´s fight it together!

    Today´s question:

    How much time in a day you spend here in Yourbrainrebalanced?

    The Young Guns - group list:

    1. Youngfella 6. GuiltRidden 11.
    2. Yuuichi 7. Numbe67 12.
    3. no94 8. merhab 13.
    4. Jer 9. 14.
    5. casacca13 10. 15.
     
  2. Yuuichi

    Yuuichi New Member

    Re: The Young Guns [ GROUP ]: 14 spots left

    IN

    I'm 18 years old. Today i'm on day 8. My previous best has been 29 days on March 2012. Had i've overcome PMO then, I would still be with the girl i love. I've been trying to overcome PMO for 3+ years, and i know that i've finally got my last run this time. I feel this is it. Come September, i'll leave YBR for good to start afresh with a new life.

    I'll be going travelling mid-July, so once i reach then, everything should go smoothly (PMO-wise). But the 30 days it will take to get there will be a long journey, i know.

    Good luck everyone :) Lets do the 90 days of noPMO and get this useless life and soul-draining addiction out of our lives

    Just to clarify, i'm not masturbating or watching porn for the rest of my life. But orgasm is still fine.
     
  3. no94

    no94 All or nothing.

    Re: The Young Guns [ GROUP ]: 14 spots left

    yo I'm in.

    My Story:

    Found out about porn when I was 12. Smuggled my laptop to the bathroom every day to watch porn when my parents were home.
    When I got my first smartphone I started fapping 2-3 times every day (mobile porn).
    I am on my longest streak right now. 1 more hour, and I will be at 8 days. The longest I went since 1 year, I managed to abstain frokm PMO for 7 days back then.
     
  4. Youngfella

    Youngfella Active Member

    Re: The Young Guns [ GROUP ]: 14 spots left

    I´ve been considering a weekly topic to which everyone would give their answers and could discuss about. I have already some ideas but I would like to hear yours too. A weekly topic could be for example " What is better than porn? " Answer could be like some certain movie or band. Whatever comes to your head. But don´t say " everything ", try to be specific.

    I will inform the first topic tomorrow.

    P.S. I´ve been thinking also a daily question but let´s see how this weekly topic idea works first.
     
  5. no94

    no94 All or nothing.

    Re: The Young Guns [ GROUP ]: 14 spots left

    Really good idea.

    I would also suggest an idea:

    What do you guys think about fantasizing about real girls (not porn)?
    I found myself doing that a lot.
    But I dont get that dopamine boost like I got when I was browsing porn and searching more and more videos.
     
  6. Yuuichi

    Yuuichi New Member

    Re: The Young Guns [ GROUP ]: 14 spots left

    Hey, i just wrote this on my journal. But i think i should write this here also. Just to hear what you guys can make of this. Have you got similar experiences? We're all (more or less) on the same day.

    Anyway, it's day 9 (and a few hours). Tell me if i should be seriously worried. Or this is just a seriously shit flatline.

    I haven't had an erection at all this reboot. Not once.
    And when i see a pretty woman on t.v. or outside, i feel completely asexual. I know she's a pretty lady, but i feel completely no sexual attraction to her at all. Does absolutely nothing for me.

    So, to find out if it's something serious, i did something drastic. I went on google images and saw pictures of Ukrainian and Japanese models in bikinis and swimsuits (nothing more, nothing less. I had my mind totally under control to be sure not to esculate to porn).

    Normally after 7 days, i would get an instant erection at the sight or thought of a Ukrainian or Japanese model. They are delightful and look x1000 even more so during a reboot. Something immediately stirs within me at the thought of them.
    But when i hit the search button and saw the many dozen images of beauties, there was nothing but total apathy. I looked at them, thought 'they look ok' and closed the window. Then i knew something was up.

    Should i be worried guys? Thanks
     
  7. Yuuichi

    Yuuichi New Member

    Re: The Young Guns [ GROUP ]: 14 spots left

    To the topic posted by no94, i think it's better than thinking about girls from porn. But it's still a bad habit and will not serve you well when you meet these girls in real life. Nor does it help your reboot i find, as you inevitably fantasise about having sex with them.

    All sexual fantasy is a no from me.
     
  8. Youngfella

    Youngfella Active Member

    Re: The Young Guns [ GROUP ]: 14 spots left

    I haven´t had an erection either this whole time of my latest attempt. I´ve had very similar experiences as you have. But I think you shouldn´t be worried. If you see a girl you like and get normally turned on, it´s fine. I prefer you wouldn´t " check " yourself because it might slow the reboot. As you said, maybe you are in the flatline state.

    P.S. I think we should spread the word in our journals or other posts so we could gather more people in this group.
     
  9. Youngfella

    Youngfella Active Member

    Re: The Young Guns [ GROUP ]: 14 spots left

    I didn´t really think a lot of these weekly topics but I decided that we have two of them, just only this one time. :D So the topics are:

    1. What is better than porn?
    2. What do you guys think about fantasizing about real girls (not porn)?


    Let the discuss begin! I write my own thoughts later on.
     
  10. Yuuichi

    Yuuichi New Member

    Re: The Young Guns [ GROUP ]: 14 spots left

    Just answered the previous weekly topic.

    For me, the interaction with a real-life girl is so much better. Porn is like playing life on 'very easy' mode. It's not enjoyable at all, even though you can see women naked (which is the goal). Interacting with a real girl gives you that challenge and the rush that comes with it. As well as that teasing possibility that you may eventually have sex with her. And that is certainly better than porn.

    Hope to hear what you guys have to say
     
  11. Youngfella

    Youngfella Active Member

    Re: The Young Guns [ GROUP ]: 14 spots left

    Answering to this weeks topics.

    1. What is better than porn?

    Real girls, going to the gym, watching great movies, doing something you´ve never done before ( like traveling on a train on your own ), bowling. Those were just some. That question is also quite hard to answer because it´s not specific. But if you have other thoughts, please share them.

    2. What do you guys think about fantasizing about real girls (not porn)?

    It´s awesome because there´s a possibility those fantasies could become reality. It´s also a sign that I´m attracted to that girl or that I even might have a crush on her.

    Sometimes when I fantasized about my friends ( who were girls of course ) I felt a little guilty because well she´s just a friend but also it´s so exciting because I think it would be sexy if friends would just realize that they want each other so bad physically( haven´t happened to me, dammit! ).

    Yuuichi described porn perfectly. It really is playing life on " very easy " mode because there´s no challenges or fails, only prizes. That´s not real life. In real life you get rejected but at some point you will " win ". Like a first kiss, it happened naturally and as it should happen. First meeting, feeling comfortable, little tease, then a little flirt, then some closeness ( hugs ) and then the kiss. Porn jumps straight to the goal. It´s not like that.
     
  12. Youngfella

    Youngfella Active Member

    Re: The Young Guns [ GROUP ]: 11 spots left

    That´s what I call determination! Thank you for that rich answer. :) All of those things you said that you think are better than porn really are.

    That´s originally said. When you meet that special one, say that to her. She will melt.

    I respect your view towards fantasizing. You see women as people, not as objects.
     
  13. casacca13

    casacca13 Guest

    Re: The Young Guns [ GROUP ]: 11 spots left

    I ask to enter in this group my lords, please :)



    Hi I'm here to come back to that boy that was happy and wanted to break the world because he belevied he could !


    I don't remember when i started to watch porn exactly, i was a child, maybe i was 8, sometimes i watched naked girls on tv on night programs. I liked it.
    Then I had internet, i was about 12, i didn't use it to watch porn occasionally i searched some nude pics, no masturbation.
    An year after i started fapping without porn (few times) , i was scared that my father found me to the pc fapping xD

    Age:14 My parents give me a pc and i was the only person allowed to use it , i was happy as fuck. It's when I started masturbating with porn (MAX once a week and with porn very few times)
    Age:15 I start to fap more frequently and more times with porn (around three times a week ) but i was still determined and with a strong mind
    Before age 16: I go to an holiday all alone in an another country for two weeks and i have fun a lot. There wasn't internet and i fapped only once; i was funny and flirting with girl was natural. There i gave my first kiss to a girl (yes it's a bit late :S ) the most beautiful girl that was there . I remember that i could get a boner just touching the hands of girls and girls were attracted to me :D

    When i came back to the holiday i was for a month deeply depressed and started heavy fapping, always with porn.

    Age 16/17: Fapping almost every day (sometimes more times a day). I was sad , no energy and no attractive to girls. I fucked a girl and there i found that i had ED and DE; i immediality linked them to the porn. Having sex with other times i always had DE and sometimes ED I thought to stop porn but never really tried till november 2012 when i discovered the Gary Wilson's video about dopamine effects and porn. I couldn't go far more then 5 days.

    NOW (Age 17/18): I'm very determined to stop this shit my record without porn and masturbation was 15 days I can arrive to 7 days easily, i can't wait anymore to return the boy i was and i want to be. In August i will be 18 and i want to be happy and clean.

    :)

    P.S. I don't speak english so sorry for my bad language .-.





    Answering to this weeks topics.

    1. What is better than porn?
    Going out with friends
    Speaking with girls
    Playing the guitar
    A lot of things xD


    2. What do you guys think about fantasizing about real girls (not porn)?
    Like everything in this world: if you abuse it's bad: however for us (that we are stopping pmoing) it isn't good IMHO
     
  14. Youngfella

    Youngfella Active Member

    Re: The Young Guns [ GROUP ]: 11 spots left

    Welcome aboard! It´s good to have more members. This thread has been a bit quiet for now so new opinions and stories are most welcome.

    I liked your very detailed lifetime with porn and your goal " to become the boy you once were ". And your english is just fine. :)
     
  15. casacca13

    casacca13 Guest

    Re: The Young Guns [ GROUP ]: 10 spots left

    I suggest the next question:

    Why are you doing this?
     
  16. Youngfella

    Youngfella Active Member

    Re: The Young Guns [ GROUP ]: 10 spots left

    Hey, that is a very good question! It will be this weeks topic. :)
     
  17. casacca13

    casacca13 Guest

    Re: The Young Guns [ GROUP ]: 10 spots left

    DAY 7

    Starting withdrawal symptomes : i feel shitty, no social, i have flu, sore throat, 0 libido, shoulder pain and no motivation.

    Fuck !
     
  18. GuiltRidden

    GuiltRidden New Member

    Re: The Young Guns [ GROUP ]: 10 spots left

    May I join?
     
  19. Youngfella

    Youngfella Active Member

    Re: The Young Guns [ GROUP ]: 10 spots left

    Sure, you´re in. :)
     
  20. no94

    no94 All or nothing.

    Re: The Young Guns [ GROUP ]: 10 spots left

    Jer has some really good points (as always).

    To be honest, I am doing this because I wanna have way more to do with real girls rather than with my hand.

    I was always finding excuses not to walk up to girls:

    Everytime I'm in a club, my friends tell me to just walk up to a girl and talk to her. My excuses were, 'noo I need a specific situation where it is necessary to talk to the girl' and 'no stop telling my what to do, imagine if your mom tells you to clean your room, you also wont wanna do it'. Fucking lame. But I was deeply believing these excuses. Also, fear of rejection (but last weekend after 10days nofap I was so horny that I had no fear of rejection AT ALL and picked up a girl!)

    Another thing are the benefits you get in your mind:
    More confidence, less brain fog/clearer thinking and all that stuff.

    I am a virgin and I dont know if I have ED/PIED, but I am pretty sure I dont have it if I already start getting hard from a girl taking my hand or dancing with her ;D
     

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