From what I'm reading in your journal you are definitely a real man. The fact that you are bettering yourself means you are a real man. We, the addicted, have retreated into our P world, which has robbed us of many aspects of ourselves, but everyone is fighting. I would rather spend an evening chatting with you, a multi-layered person, than some two-dimensional dick-wad. Remember, real men eat quiche...and quiff. Also, there are women who will brag about their man, because they think that it puts them in a favorable light; it makes them seem desirable. I love the energy you are putting forth bob, my real man. You're keeping it real and you have a great streak going.