The Rogues' Gallery [GROUP]

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by Pedigree, Jun 17, 2013.

  1. tsmith1302

    tsmith1302 Active Member

    Yea, we could debate it all day and nobody would really be right or wrong.

    I was a virgin at 26 years old when I joined YBR. So one of the things I needed to tackle with my reboot was intimacy with "real women". The strip club/ massage parlor is a conduit for me. It keeps me in the game, so to speak. I need to feel the touch of a woman to stay motivated quite frankly. My main objective is avoiding stimulation on a computer screen.

    Is it ideal? No. Is it causing me any harm? I doubt it. As long as I don't overdo it, I think it's OK.
     
  2. Sammy3000

    Sammy3000 We are no longer the hollow men

    Hmm... As tempting as it sounds(I do love massages) I feel that it's not the right time for me. I think I'm in a similar boat to Truett. Doesn't have to be a relationship mind you. Just someone that I have a mental, emotional, and/or physical connection with.


    I'll bring up another question for our Gallery.

    PE.

    I MO for the first time in a long time two days ago. The sensitivity and sensation was incredible. Back when I was with May the sensation was MIND EXPANSIVE.
    With her I was able to last for about five minutes maybe(there was also no condoms involved...). Before this journey of no PMO began I could go for an hour easily. Not because I couldn't come but because I had greater control. And as far as kegels go... man I've never been able to figure that stuff out.
     
  3. tsmith1302

    tsmith1302 Active Member

    Yea, common sense dictates that the longer you abstain the more likely you are to "pop" right away. I don't think it's PE symptoms, as much as it's a law of nature, for lack of a better term.

    In my mind there is a point when most men can be considered "healthy". Once that is reached, prolonged abstinence can be counter productive.

    Me for instance, I've shown virtually no signs of ED. I wake up with morning wood every day and my erections are usually quite strong. I see no good reason to abstain from orgasm for long periods of time at this point, other than maybe to challenge myself.

    I know the commonly held belief on this forum is 90 days no orgasm. Treating ED, I guess that works. For me, I don't see there being any sexual benefits. It would most likely just cause PE.
     
  4. tsmith1302

    tsmith1302 Active Member

    I did have a dead dick one time, last year when I lost my v-card. I just couldn't get hard. It was upsetting. But it appears it was an isolated incident, caused by performance anxiety and inexperience.

    I almost jumped the gun and assumed it was PIED. Glad I didn't.
     
  5. freedomfromcybersex

    freedomfromcybersex rebooting my brain, reclaiming my body.

    hey guys - join us for the telephone conference call supporting meeting tomorrow at 10 a.m. PST 1 pm EST:

    http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=10398.0
     
  6. DancerMan

    DancerMan Guest

    PE for me would certainly be a welcome sign of improvement! Id go for that over DE and ED any day! that said it is a common problem too and causes distress for many, but seems to be a far easier problem to treat.

    Ill be running laps the day I PE.... and grinning like a Cheshire cat!! ;D
     
  7. tsmith1302

    tsmith1302 Active Member

    You would choose PE over DE? Really??
     
  8. DancerMan

    DancerMan Guest

    its probably easy for me to say that because, I have never been able to O with anyone and it has gotten me so down all these years... but in reality I guess they are both pretty debilitating for the sufferer. I have a friend that has never gone beyond a minute, but he can O 5 times in 30min when he is with a chick. which I certainly cannot relate with but see at times how it can be distressing for him... he certainly does not lack confidence... maybe I should ask his what he would prefer :) the ideal obviously is neither :) :)
     
  9. freedomfromcybersex

    freedomfromcybersex rebooting my brain, reclaiming my body.

    free YBR phone meeting reminder! tomorrow (weds 10 a.m. Pacific).... i'll be there and would love to hear from you guys.

    Phone number: 1-218-339-3600
    Access code: 404606#

    Time: 1pm New York, 6pm UK
     
  10. tsmith1302

    tsmith1302 Active Member

    How's everybody doing reboot wise?
     
  11. Sammy3000

    Sammy3000 We are no longer the hollow men

    Officially restarted last night. And so far today I've completed all the tasks I've set myself according to the time frame which I allotted for myself.

    So good. :)

    Due to my relapses though I feel the lapses of concentration and memory occurring more than they ever did during my 157 day streak.
     
  12. CidGuerreiro

    CidGuerreiro Well-Known Member

    I haven't been checking YBR lately, hence why I've completely forgotten about the group journal.

    I've been floating between failure and success. I'm much, much better than my pre-reboot self, but still need those drastic changes in my life to completely turn it around. That would be either a job or a girlfriend. Both would be ideal.

    I've been trying to get a job, had an interview today. I'm not really trying to get a GF, though. Don't wanna think about it for the moment.

    My depression has become very manageable, although sometimes I still feel bitter and angry at the world and myself.

    Right now I'm focusing on my work, on the things I really love to do.
     
  13. tsmith1302

    tsmith1302 Active Member

    Cid, seems like we're at the same exact place reboot/ results wise.
     
  14. CidGuerreiro

    CidGuerreiro Well-Known Member

    It gets easier. I used to be just like that. Would always give in to the urges even without being triggered. One trigger and all was lost.

    Each day clean loosens the grip porn holds over you. Just try to keep it to a minimum and you'll be making progress.
     
  15. Pedigree

    Pedigree Active Member

    -PMO-wise: not counting the days anymore. I'm only on here pretty much to reset my clock when I MO.

    -MO-wise: Averaging in the 4-6 day mark. Better than the 1-2 days from a few weeks/months back.

    -Brain fog is gone, morning wood is a bit of hit or miss these days.

    -I'll keep aiming for the 4-6 day mark but I'd like to aim for 7-10 days between each MO.
     
  16. TruettW

    TruettW Active Member

    Day 1. Getting past a week seems to be a stretch.
     
  17. tsmith1302

    tsmith1302 Active Member

    Be more specific? A week without PMO or MO or both?

    If you are struggling to make it a week, definitely try an orgasm reboot to build up some days. Porn should be the main enemy, at least in my opinion.
     
  18. TruettW

    TruettW Active Member

    I know what you're saying, but trust me, MO is a part of my problem. If I at work sneak off into the toilet to MO, thus risking getting fired, because I can't control what I'm doing, and no P enters the picture, it's evident that I'm suffering from sex addiction. I've tried, as a countermeasure, to MO regularly at my pad. It doesn't have any effect on what happens during the days. The more I MO, the more I want to do it. I've had the best results by going cold turkey.
     
  19. tsmith1302

    tsmith1302 Active Member

    I see what you're saying. I've been tempted to MO at work before but never quite made the leap lol.

    Do you have a particular goal or number of days you want to reach?
     
  20. TruettW

    TruettW Active Member

    My record is 144 days of total abstinence. No sex, no M'ing, no P. And after that an awful series of relapses happened. I'm not sure how many, but across several months, and I've usually lasted only a few days, end on the worst day I relapsed four time. Although some benefits seem to have stayed (elevated confidence compared to the past, absence of panic attacks, more morning wood and spontaneous E's), I'm basically back to square one in the addiction.

    I don't have a specific number in mind. I want to reach control of myself, and by that, freedom at last. I guess that means that the target is the days I have left in my life.
     

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