Eternity, i am 66 years old. and still trying to kick this nasty addiction. this is the first time i have gone over 30 days. for me it has taken a lifetime. i believe love is like joy and happiness. the more one searches for it, the more elusive it seems. i believe it is a byproduct of who we are. we decide who we want to be, work on our qualities and interests as you say, and someone with like interests will show up. porn is not one of the qualities and interests for sure. i also regret wasting my earlier years on porn, trash,drinking, and just going through the motions of life. i had a lot of yesterdays but not too many tomorrows so i will not waste today. especially sitting for hours in front of a computer watching filth. today i love my wife-action, hug my kids, share with my friends, am totally present at work and give it all i got. today i call my siblings just to let them know i am thinking about them. just for today. hang in there Shady, don't quit before the miracle.