The Resurrected [GROUP] (3 spots remaining)

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by newself, Aug 25, 2013.

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Group Name

  1. Platoon of the Resurrected

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  2. The Resurrected

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  3. No Fap International

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  4. The Internationals

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  1. newself

    newself I can. I will. I must.

    Name: The Resurrected aka The Internationals

    We are a group open to 8 members for those battling P/M/O in your mid-20's. Two spots remaining.

    Group Values to accomplish our individual goals:

    • Not a competition.
    • Mutual encouragement and support. Relapse is ok. We keep up the fight.
    • Talk about how we're doing with no PMO, and what we struggle with. We can give advice to and encourage each other.
    • We can count on eachother to respond to our journals, and walk with on this fight.
    • Be Active on the group forum!


    In your introduction please include:

    Age.
    Location.
    Longest streak.
    Current status/streak with no PMO or P or MO (w/e)
    Approach to beating PMO.
    Goals. (with PMO and in life)


    CURRENT MEMBERS of THE RESURRECTED:

    Anónimo25 (Venezuela) - 25 y/o
    Jimmy (France) - 25 y/o
    NewSelf (USA) - 26 y/o
    SammyBattery (Colombia) - 25 y/o
    Wara (Canada) - 25 y/o ​
     
  2. newself

    newself I can. I will. I must.

    Re: Looking to start new group journal - mid 20's (5 person)

    Age: 26 y/o

    Location: Los Angeles, CA

    Longest streak: 97 days

    Current status: 0 days. Relapsed today after 9 days. I've been struggling after I relapsed after my 97 day streak.

    Approach to beating PMO: I know for me that PMO is an escape habit. I want to identify my triggers, and why I relapse. For me, I know that stress, feelings of inadequacy, loneliness, and boredom are definitely what trigger me into PMO. I want to be able to identify these triggers and stressors, and deal with them in a healthy way. I also want to make sure that my mind is right and understands that PMO is a lie and deception in what it offers me.

    Goals: Live real life without escaping. No PMO forever. But first, beat my previous streak of 97 days. Also, I want to get a girlfriend, take chances and risks, be a better friend in general, and be more others focused.

    I hope you can join me.

    Also, add some name suggestions. I have none on me right now.
     
  3. Anónimo25

    Anónimo25 My hand... It hurts.

    Re: Looking to start new group journal - mid 20's (5 person)

    Age: 25

    Location: Venezuela

    Longest streak: Can't really say. This is my 1st real-documented effort to stop.

    Current status/streak with no PMO or P or MO (w/e): See my counter below.

    Approach to beating PMO: Well, i was blessed with curiosity since i was born, but i've suffered general boredom lately (don't know if it is thanks to the addiction, or if it is one of the causes of the addiction). Thankfully, i have a decent number of hobbies and duties: i don't want to sound like a hipster here but i enjoy many art-related stuff - mainly books, movies, and music (which i create myself too). I am not a particular lover of exercises but could commit with a program for a relative long period of time. I'm in the middle of a thesis process which i have to complete before graduating from university. Also, i have a girlfriend but we are facing a very particular (but not permanent) situation where we see each other for 2 days a week ... I'm not gonna lie, that has affected me but is not going to last for much more.

    That said, the strategy i have in mind is to replace the masturbation time with a lot of more productive activities to overwhelm myself... At least at the beginning, and then slow down the pace progressively.

    Goals: To recover whatever the addiction has taken away from me: energy, clarity of mind, healthy sexual relationships (i suffer that delayed orgasm disorder - or DOD), creativity, time... Also, i want to expand my confort zone or just get rid of it, and ultimately to treat me and the people around me better.

    PS: My girlfriend only knows about my DOD but not about the porn addiction. Neither do my family and friends, so i'm pretty much dealing with this on my own for now. However, i want to reach my 7 days goal first in order to communicate it to her; she is really supportive and understanding so she would really help me with this.

    I forgot about the name. I propose: Fap's not a Catch-22.
     
  4. Wara

    Wara New Member

    Re: Looking to start new group journal - mid 20's (5 person)

    Age - 26

    Location - Canada

    Longest streak - Somewhere short of 2 months

    Current status - 30 days

    Approach to beating PMO - I really don't have any trouble staying away. Just keep my hands off of myself. And keep my mind busy with other things in general.

    Goals - Be happy and healthy. Live a fulfilling life with someone i love. I think that this PMO thing contributes to a lot of my bad moods. I feel a lot more healthy a month in. I'd like to see how i feel a year from now.
     
  5. SammyBattery

    SammyBattery New Member

    Re: Looking to start new group journal - mid 20's (5 person)

    Age: 25 y/o

    Location: Colombia (+Europe)

    Longest streak: 26 days (current) (previous record around 7 days several times)

    Current status: 26 days

    Approach to beating PMO:
    • No Watching Porn
    • No Masturbating
    • No Edging
    • Avoiding provactive Movie Scenes, YT videos, Fantasies
    • Eat Healthy and regular exercises (Positive cycle: losing weight helps PMO abstinence and vice-versa)
    • Start meditation
    • Start Kegel exercises + Reverse
    • When I feel ready, rewire with girls
    • Try doing all this without ED drugs or Paid sex (never have)

    Goals: Beat PIED. Gain back full erection and gain libido back. Never do PMO again. After Reboot limit MO for rest of my life. Let my creativity bloom again. Go out and meet more people/stop wasting time in front of the computer. Have lots of fun before I enter a serious relationship again. Be healthy. Be adventurous. Train my willpower for all other aspects in life.
     
  6. newself

    newself I can. I will. I must.

    Re: Looking to start new group journal - mid 20's [GROUP] (1 spot remaining)

    Hey it's awesome to meet you guys!! Sammy, Wara, and Anonimo.

    We're pretty international. Really glad to journal with you guys.

    We could start off just doing day 1 of our journals tomorrow, and start it off. We got one spot remaining, but I'm sure we could kick it off. You guys down? And any suggestions on how we can better do this together we can go from there.

    I just relapsed yesterday, so it'll be great to get my motivation back, and kick start a new streak with you guys. Honored that we can support each other. Nice to meet you guys.

    Feel free to offer any suggestions on what our group should do.

    Can each of you guy suggests a name?

    I'm gonna suggest, No Fap International, or The Most Interesting Men in the World.

    Once we all suggest a name, I'll put it up for vote.

    Let's do this!
     
  7. SammyBattery

    SammyBattery New Member

    Re: Looking to start new group journal - mid 20's [GROUP] (1 spot remaining)

    Yes same here, glad we are in this together. There is a bunch of guys available for the last spot, some who recently started on the forum. We should just ask any.
    I think it's important to discuss our concerns and share info about doubts we have. This could be on certain topics like: how to fight urges, how to block any form of P, effects of O or M (Edging) on our progress, How to rebuild confidence after relapse and avoid binging, questions on ED for those who have it (me), tackle emotional highs and lows, advice on rewiring with a partner, generally keeping a dynamic of support.

    I like both names you suggested haha.
    I'll suggest "Platoon of the Resurrected"
     
  8. Anónimo25

    Anónimo25 My hand... It hurts.

    Re: Looking to start new group journal - mid 20's [GROUP] (1 spot remaining)

    I agree with everything. This should be more than a journal, for that we have ours already. My questions are about the delayed ejaculation/anorgasmia and recovering sensibility after many years of PMO.

    By the way, i like 'No Fap International' (even just 'The Internationals' sounds great, jaja). And, related to the spot left, WE NEED AN ASIAN!
     
  9. newself

    newself I can. I will. I must.

    Re: Looking to start new group journal - mid 20's [GROUP] (1 spot remaining)

    Well, I'm Asian so maybe I can bridge the asian and american thing hahaha.

    I like platoon of the resurrected too. I even just like: the resurrected.

    Wara, do you have any name suggestions? I'm gonna put it up to vote tonight.

    Well, where are you guys right no with no fap/no pmo??

    I'm trying to get back on the wagon. I feel like on my last streak (9 days) that I kind of shook off the mud of relapse.

    But now I feel like I'm still muddy, and still getting up...

    I think I still have to make peace with myself
     
  10. SammyBattery

    SammyBattery New Member

    Re: Looking to start new group journal - mid 20's [GROUP] (1 spot remaining)

    Then we need to find someone from africa, europe or... antarctica. Keep things international :).
    Two good things about relapsing is that 1) you learn from it and 2) if you manage to avoid binging, you never erase all the progress you've made.
    The trick is to aim for 11 days now. Small steps. Then you'll see. The mind is a powerful thing, I'm easily having the roughest day of my (very irregular and non-linear) reboot so far, I lost count on how many times I just wanted relieve myself today. But my goal is 30 days, that keeps me away from taking the easy road.
     
  11. Anónimo25

    Anónimo25 My hand... It hurts.

    Re: Looking to start new group journal - mid 20's [GROUP] (1 spot remaining)

    Well, thought you already had Europe covered, SammyBattery. An Australian would work too, jaja.

    You know, the group could be a good work-in-progress where we make use of our imagination/creativity/inspiration. So, after choosing the name could be nice if we try to create an image for it (i've seen anothers doing the same).

    That way we will look more stylish, like refined gentlemen. Also, it's another way to keep our mind out of the P (for we who have that problem) and our hands occupied in... Something else.

    Will log in later to see what do you say, and to update my journal. Stay strong.
     
  12. newself

    newself I can. I will. I must.

    Re: Looking to start new group journal - mid 20's [GROUP] (1 spot remaining)

    An image sounds great Anon.

    Stay strong today Sammy. I'm going to have to fight my urges today too. Ever since my relapse after 97, I have been making progress though. It went from a couple days to five days to 1 week to 9 days. So hopefully, I can build it up. I'm gonna try to cut it. For me, if I make it past 2 weeks I get some good momentum going... hopefully this time I can stay on track more.

    What works for me is just remembering that in the moment, whatever PMO promises is a deception. So make it to 30 days Sammy - and even more. Whatever you think you might be able to get out of it isn't real. The benefits of the long term outweigh the short term of PMO. Stay strong Sammy!
     
  13. freedomfromcybersex

    freedomfromcybersex rebooting my brain, reclaiming my body.

    Re: Looking to start new group journal - mid 20's [GROUP] (1 spot remaining)

    free YBR phone meeting reminder! tomorrow.... i'll be there and would love to hear from you guys.

    Phone number: 1-218-339-3600
    Access code: 404606#

    Time: 1pm New York, 6pm UK
     
  14. Anónimo25

    Anónimo25 My hand... It hurts.

    Re: Looking to start new group journal - mid 20's [GROUP] (1 spot remaining)

    Ok, i think is time for me to preach! So far, the 'overwhelming' strategy is working pretty decent, even if you don't have hobbies at all just commit to a fitness programm for a short-medium term: it won't only boost your self steem and consume part of your former MO time, but also you will be tired when the night comes = you'l be sleeping like a baby. I've been having the best dreams since a long time ago.

    Other than that, is always good to remember: STAY-AWAY-OF-YOUR-PENIS! He is the one messing with you.

    Well, just passed by to say that. Good luck.
     
  15. Hapii

    Hapii New Member

    Re: Looking to start new group journal - mid 20's [GROUP] (1 spot remaining)

    Hi guys, Anónimo25 has respond to my journal and i wanted to do the same. I finally ended up in this group and i would love to join in! I think this community is so big that it would be great to have only a few buddies to share things and move on together.

    Age 25

    Location FRANCE, i'm not asian but somebody told me once that i looked like keanu reeves does it count ? :p

    Longest streak I think it was like 3 or four months when it did a long trip to canada with my girlfriend. (i didn't know about my addiction then)

    Current status/streak with no PMO or P or MO About that, i really don't understand all these P, O MO POD abrevations lol, can you guys send me on a page where all of these are explained ? :)

    Approach to beating PMO I just started two days ago and i don't really have an approach, this is really my first try to stop since i discovered i was addicted.

    Goals My goal is to beat this addiction so i can be more sociable again, do sport, go out more, look at my girlfriend again without having the sensation that i cheated her with porn. Be more efficient at work, etc..

    Thanks :)
     
  16. SammyBattery

    SammyBattery New Member

    Re: Looking to start new group journal - mid 20's [GROUP] (1 spot remaining)

    Haha. That should do. As long as you awake from the dreaded "PMO Matrix":
    " Let me tell you why you’re here. You’re here because you know something. (...) You don’t know what it is, but it’s there, like a splinter in your mind, driving you mad. (...) Do you know what I’m talking about? The Matrix? The Matrix is everywhere. It is all around us. Even now, in this very room. You can see it when you look out your window or when you turn on your television. You can feel it when you go to work… (...) It is the world that has been pulled over your eyes to blind you from the truth. What truth? That you are a slave, Neo. Like everyone else you were born into bondage. Into a prison that you cannot taste or see or touch. A prison for your mind.”
    - The Matrix (1999)

    P: Porn
    M: Masturbation
    O:Orgasm

    If you stay away from these things, you will heal. The more serious you are, the better you are off. I don't know how you found out about this forum, but many of us, have spent first a considerable amount of time on the website below to understand the ins and outs of our problems. You should definitely check it out. It explains almost everything.
    http://yourbrainonporn.com/
    And If you have questions, here is the place to discuss it. It's good you are here pal, we hope to share thoughts, doubts and encouragement.
    Good luck,
     
  17. newself

    newself I can. I will. I must.

    Re: Looking to start new group journal - mid 20's [GROUP] (1 spot remaining)

    Nice to meet you Jimmy. Welcome to the group. We will have a group name soon haha.

    I edited the name vote since we had a tie. I wanted to make it one vote only, but couldn't change it after I edited the poll. If you read this in time, try to vote only once.

    Sammy did a good break down on PMO.

    Another good resource is http://sacredsexualityproject.com/

    that one has probably helped me the most. if you guys haven't checked it out, you definitely should.

    Stay strong today guys.

    For me getting up the first couple days is the hardest. Morning is hardest for me. But still trying to remember that anything that PMO promises me is a lie. Day 2, and trying to fight.


    Also, do you guys want to open the group up to even more people?
     
  18. newself

    newself I can. I will. I must.

    Re: Looking to start new group journal - mid 20's [GROUP] (1 spot remaining)

    And hey Sammy - good job making it through yesterday. Glad to see your counter still high. How did you do it?
     
  19. Hapii

    Hapii New Member

    Re: Looking to start new group journal - mid 20's [GROUP] (1 spot remaining)

    Hey thank you very much for the welcoming and for giving me these helping ressources :)
    I really think that keeping this group alive will help us all !

    Yeah it would be great to have like 2 or 3 more person, but i think that with too many people in the group it will be difficult to follow because of the numbers of replies and it will also feel less like a group. (personal thoughts though :))
     
  20. SammyBattery

    SammyBattery New Member

    Re: Looking to start new group journal - mid 20's [GROUP] (1 spot remaining)


    Fantastic info there newself, Haven't heard of it yet. Going the check it out right now.

    Yeah 2-3 more is good, makes it more dynamic. As long as it's not too overcrowded

    Man... if you knew what I've been through yesterday... It was a vicious sudden attack, I certainly wasn't mentally prepared for it.
    I kept saying to myself words like "pain" "poison" and "willpower" over and over again every time I put my hand down my jeans. I was bursting with energy and agitation, so instead of staying in front of the computer writing the thesis, I cleaned my room and did my luggage (although I only go back to Europe in only 3 days). I slept horrible. All this craziness from yesterday has left me Incredibly foggy today. My head feels like if I spent 3 rounds in a ring with Mike Tyson. My eyes are swollen up.... not cool those withdrawal symptoms. But I have no choice... I can't go back to my former PMO self... I just can't... It has highjacked my life for too long now. My desire to heal is what helped me survive. I really take this challenge as a life or death situation. Once this perspective is triggered, your mind becomes incredibly strong. I think it's the same for any survival instincts triggered in the animal kingdom.
    To avoid this out of control day to happen again, I need to start meditating. Develop this frontal cortex that makes one have the upper hand on those kind of situations.
     

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