Hey Guys, I am 23 years old. I'm single and a virgin, the virgin part is by choice and the single part isn't. I first saw porn when I was 11 and it has been a constant part of my life ever since. I became a Christian almost 9 years ago and that is how long I have been trying to quit pornography/masturbation. I realize that makes my my motivation and the resources that I draw from drastically different than some of you, but we have a shared goal so I hope that we can put that discussion to the side. I won't proselytise if you won't. So in the time that I have been trying to stop porn/masturbation the longest I have ever gone was 21 days (9 years ago and I was traveling for most of it), followed by 20 days a few years ago and 11 days last year. Taking that into account it is kind of amazing that I am currently on Day 8. In terms of the consequences of porn use on my life I have become a complete loner. Admittedly I'm not sure how much of that is my natural tendency but it is definitely exacerbated by the privacy that porn use necessitates. When you combine a need to be alone with social anxiety the result is that there are only two people outside of my family that I talk to voluntarily and them rarely. I'm not even really comfortable with anonymous online communication so this is actually the first thing that has inspired me to post anything on a forum in the 15 years that I have been using the internet. On a related note, I've been trying to do this for so long and I felt so alone because all of the material I had read was from people who had successfully overcome it. That is useful, but there is something hope inspiring about being in a community of people going through the same thing at the same time together. So thank you. The past 8 days have been somewhat easy. I have gone through this enough to know that means that the difficult bit is just trying to sneak up on me so I'm not relaxing my guard, Vigilance is the watchword. That having been said it is hard not to be thankful for an easy stretch. I've been really lazy and the last couple days I've had headaches and a desire to hibernate but a temporary lack of productivity is preferable to doing hand to hand combat with my desire for pornography and masturbation.