Look above her eyes, or focus on your own body (your look becomes a mere gaze, like when doing Yoga) She's proud of working out and the body it gets her, there's no shame to have. It's only a problem because some guys are porn addicts (us) or assholes (the ones calling them names for that, or being harrassing to various degrees). I find it very unclassy from them, but not shameful. I think you point it perfectly here: "But it's not easy. At least not yet, given my current skill level. Maybe it gets easier over time." It's skills - it's all about skills, actually. So yes, it will get easier over time. Despite my relapses these days, I stare less (to be fair it also has to do with reading more in the subway). But whether it's resisting porn, socialising, emotional management, etc: it's all about skills. "Issues" are just skills we haven't developped yet.