The Naked Truth

Discussion in 'Ages 30-39' started by TrueSelf, Jan 29, 2019.

  1. TrueSelf

    TrueSelf Active Member

    Looking Ahead
    Next challenge (for sure) coming up will be this Friday. Scheduled for an early end to my work day. It is inevitable that I will be hit with the familiar "this would be a good opportunity" (for PMO). I'm trying to re-frame my thoughts to, this will be a good opportunity to prove to myself that I do not need to give into my compulsions and that they do not need to run my life.
     
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  2. -Luke-

    -Luke- Well-Known Member

    Well, it's a good first step that you're aware of the situation and your thoughts. That may sound obvious, but a lot of people get that moment of awareness only after a relapse, when they ask themselves "Why did that happen?" Re-framing your thoughts is a good approach. You got this!
     
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  3. Apeman

    Apeman It means you're a baboon... And I'm not

    Now this is next-level Fapstronauting. Looking ahead, identifying vulnerabilities, and being ready to steel yourself ahead of time represents a huge leap forward.

    Take note, everyone.
     
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  4. NewStart19

    NewStart19 Well-Known Member

    @TrueSelf

    I am both sorry and pleased to see you have returned to the forums. The former because I never want to hear that someone is being pulled back toward the black hole of their addiction. I'd much rather hear the opposite. And the latter because it is nice to see you back. It might just be a meaningless memory of emotion, but I still appreciate the little support you gave me back in the day when I first got started here. Embarrassed though I am to admit it, it surprisingly meant a lot to me for a comment on the internet.

    As a random aside, are you willing to divulge the origin of your avatar? It's been eating away at me, so much so that I tried various techniques to look up what it's from online. I totally understand if you want to keep it hidden/private. But please do let me know if you feel the inclination.

    Hope you can spend some time outside and away from IADs (internet-accessible devices) or with friends, family, pets, etc.

    Take care
     
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  5. TrueSelf

    TrueSelf Active Member

    Lol. Actually I'm not completely sure. I'm into both superheroes and fantasy novels (yes, I'm that level of nerdy) so I really like Thor because he fits in with both. I wanted a "happy looking" Thor and this is one of the images that came up. Based on a Google search the image seems to be connected to books by Rick Riordan - which I have not read.

    Thank you very much for commenting and for your kind words!
     
  6. TrueSelf

    TrueSelf Active Member

    I know this has been mentioned before but yet another consequence of heavy (maybe any) porn use is that it seems like it dulls everything else in life down. Even today (although brief) I felt like I could really appreciate (felt an emotional reaction to) the words/melody of a song I was listening to. I'd post a link but I can't recall what song it was.
     
  7. TrueSelf

    TrueSelf Active Member

    Friday went well. No serious urges and I actually was home alone for a shorter period than expected. About to go read more of my book. Good night all.
     
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  8. positivef

    positivef Active Member

    I've found this to be true. In porn your brain escapes and emotions other than craving more porn are dulled.
     
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  9. TrueSelf

    TrueSelf Active Member

    I go back and forth on if it is helpful for me to count days. Looks like this is day 5. It was a good day overall. Only real issues were a few hours ago. We went out to dinner to a much "fancier" place than we typically would. Some people really dressed up and there were some tempting "visuals" that were difficult for me to resist. Honestly I didn't expend much effort in making much of an attempt to look away. A consequence of this choice was that said visuals got me thinking about sex. This is not good as my wife and I do not have sex very often and thus I don't have an outlet for pent up sexual energy. I'll be sure to get some good exercise (cardio) in tomorrow as that usually helps.
     
  10. positivef

    positivef Active Member

    The way I see the counter is to use it if helps you abstain. However, it shouldn't be used as a reason to beat yourself up; that is counter productive (no pun). Some people use a spreadsheet so they can see the overall level of use (hopefully drop), for example was using once every two weeks, now down to once every four weeks.

    You should try not to linger on sexual thoughts as this makes relapse more likely. Maybe work on the reason you and your wife aren't having much sex?
     
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  11. TrueSelf

    TrueSelf Active Member

    Today was a good day. It was both productive and free from acting out.
     
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  12. TrueSelf

    TrueSelf Active Member

    Wanted to make a quick note. I had a pretty strong urge to use P again during at home working hours. I think it was related to work being a bit extra stressful the past two days. Part of me wanted to look at certain video visuals that have been highly dopamine/"exciting" in the past. I did not give in to the urges and they eventually went away.
     
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  13. TrueSelf

    TrueSelf Active Member

    I've recently reached double digits no PMO. This morning I took my dog out for a walk and it was very foggy. Although it was a familiar route and I was carrying a powerful flashlight the path looking very different. I feel like this is what happens when not distracted by PMO. Life starts to look different and my perspective begins to change.
     
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