I think what I'm trying to do is take back some control. There are times when it feels like it is almost inevitable that I will PMO. I will have my day planned out, then a circumstance will change and I throw away my former plan for some PMOing. This is exactly what happened last Friday. My night could have gone one way (productive or even relaxing) but I choose the PMO route after learning I would be home alone. Even on the following day when this happened again (home alone unexpectedly) I had a fleeting thought of taking a break for one "last" PMO. I can remember a time when I felt much more in control when in these situations and I am working to get back to that state. One thought I had yesterday was to frame my thinking in a slightly different way. Instead of trying to get in the habit of not PMOing the habit/way of life I want to achieve is to only direct my sexual energy to my wife. Obviously a by product of living this way is not using erotic materials or masturbating. This way I am working towards doing something instead of not doing something. Finally even though this goes against the RR type thinking I am going to set some mini goals to get myself headed in the right direction (as I have had some success with this in the past). To that end my first goal is to make it through this upcoming weekend with directing my sexual energy only to my wife.