The Fellowship of the Ring [GROUP]

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Last night I had a dream that I relapsed, and needless to say I was pretty relieved when I woke up. I have not relapsed (yet, but hopefully ever) but my greatest sympathies go out to those who have. This is not an easy process and a relapse doesn't mean you're weak. It just means you need to re-evaluate your priorities and give your reboot another shot. Keep at it!

 

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I don't think a little competition would hurt anyone. The key is just if one person does happen to relapse, then they will need encouragement cause they'd probably feel bad that everyone else is competing and doing well except for them.

I was horny as hell again yesterday and I had quite a few urges. I went to bed really horny and I had a wet dream again. Idk if that's weird, that I had 2 wet dreams in a row. But yeah...

 

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I changed the name of the group. The original was getting quite old. If anyone can think of anything better, shoot some ideas

 

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I was the first one who relapsed, and I that is the reason some of the other guys relapsed
my conscience is bad

Anyway, like the new name.

Keep going guys!

 

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I'd like to join this. I had an MO(no P) relapse this weekend, haven't done anything to day.

 

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Regarding our geographical places. I hope you get the cue:

 

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I think we have some good tips on this page put forth by some of you guys. We all seem to face the same sticking points, and if we can bounce around ideas like this, we will have a better shot at success. Now with that said, I know very little about you guys, apart from your usernames and some snippets of your experiences. I am wondering what you all plan to achieve by ending your addiction to PMO? For me personally, I look forward to being a more confident man with a more colorful personality. PMO has killed my passion for life, and has left me with a boring personality, which makes it hard for me to build a strong connection with others, whether it's a job interview, making new friends, or success with the opposite sex. What are your goals? If we talk about our end goals, we will be far more likely to stay on track, and we can remind ourselves how short sighted it is to fall for instant gratification when our recovery will provide so many long term benefits. So what is the purpose behind your recovery?

 

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Good question your bringing up. We have the same goals. I started masturbating at a real young age and went PMO soon after. I was in elementary at that time, I came from a foreign country and I didn't know the language that good, so I couldn't really get along with the other kids. I had a few fights even. So that led me to withdrawing and isolating myself through porn. I never paid attention in class, leading the teachers to think I'm stupid. I had to deal with a lot of bullshit in there. PMO became my way to cope with everything, and video games. That's why I'm socially anxious now. It got better in high school but I'm still socially anxious. I just feel frustrated and shame.

In short, PMO has been doing that to me for the last few years. Isolation and porn addiction feed off each other and I plan to stop PMO and hoping it will lead me to seek out social situations. I feel real insecure sometimes and that's not who I think I am as a man. I'm not living by my ideals right now, and that's because of PMO.

Basically, I want to be who I know is my real self without the bullshit of social anxiety and the shame and chemical fucking up of PMO.

 

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I would say the purpose behind my recovery is to gain back my social confidence. I feel like the detriments due to porn usage have exceeded just girls, and I am worse in any given social state than I could be. Thinking about this, as well as no longer experiencing ED with girls, I feel like I have enough motivation to give this thing a realistic shot.

 

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I think I posted just a few days ago on my reasons to stop, maybe on here or maybe in my journal. I agree it's always important to remember why you want to stop PMO. Anyways, yesterday went decently well and today I had a real urge that I could've acted on but I just slept instead. Quite difficult but I managed to avoid it nonetheless.

 

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Good thing you did. Remember everyone, I just made a huge mistake (read my journal) DON'T do the same. It was very close to triggering, and the only reason I wasn't stimulated was because I am sick. Otherwise I would be at day 1 again right now. Though T and struggling changed my mind on that, and I thank you for the support but I will never do it again.

Like I said, remind yourself of what you're doing and read my last few journal entries carefully you can learn from me. At last now I am going to avoid *that* behavior for good.

 

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Well put Jp. It's essential to learn from the mistakes we make and implement changes that'll help us with our reboot.

As for today, not too bad again. I do have a bad feeling about tomorrow since I will have plenty of free time so I may attempt to either work in the library or just sleep during that time. I have no plans of ever relapsing again.

 

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Day 2 = Feeling good, social anxiety is lessening already. A little more confident. So counting my last streak's days, I relapsed once in 8 days, made some progress I guess.

 

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Just updating quickly.

Having very limited access to internet is a very...interesting experience. It's like I'm living in the 90's or something haha.

I read something last night about breathing exercises and it really helped me pass some cravings today. I think it's one of the first search results in Google after searching "how to quit pornography addiction".

I'm tying to go to bed earlier so I can wake up earlier. I'd rather go to sleep at 9pm and wake up at 4am than go to bed between 12-3am and wake up half asleep and late for school at 7:30am.
Still keeping up with cold showers.

Well, that's my post for the day. How is everyone else feeling? Everyone over here in Australia is in good spirits due to the election.
Stay strong StopThePorno, every day without porn is a step in the right direction.

 

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Never put better before. So true.

 

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So I had a strong urge today that I would normally give in to. Fortunately, I didn't. It was as I predicted yesterday though, I knew beforehand that today was going to be difficult. Although I didn't take any steps to prevent it (somehow this reboot up until now, I've made it purely off of willpower), I know that I need to start taking steps like actually going to the library or something rather than stay home. I also know that this weekend is going to be extremely difficult with urges and trying not to relapse. The point I am trying to make though, is that you should think ahead an analyze your schedule and how you think you will be feeling, how often you will be around people, etc, and try to takes steps beforehand that will help you not relapse. It helps to be prepared the day before you know difficult urges are going to come.

 

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I have been staying safe lately, though I did get a close call this morning. I woke up with raging morning wood, and just sat up looking at it. It was so forceful, and my commands to make it go down were useless. I felt like this was a David vs Goliath situation, where I was David. : I started bouncing my tool up and down with my PC muscles. This causes pleasure, but it also weakens the erection. By the end of this ordeal, I saw a big fat drop of pre-cum rolling down my erect dick. I hope this doesn't mean I orgasm'd, or that I have to reset my counter or anything.
I felt like a fat kid who got his cake taken away! I was very tempted to continue stroking until I busted, but that would mean relapse, and potentially losing any gains I made thus far. This was a very challenging test of willpower for me, but that's also a good thing because the only way to build more willpower is by practicing it. It really is no different than exercising your muscles in the gym.

PS. The deep breathing technique works by activating your parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for increasing your willpower, from what I've learned in the past. Consuming sugary material also has a similar effect, but it has to be real sugar, so no diet soda or artificial sweeteners.

 

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I'm glad you fought through bro be careful out there. Haha

Yeah seems like the more you abstain the easier it gets to abstain.

Day 3 ---- Feeling normal. I noticed a reduction of social anxiety yesterday. Going to meet a girl today, I'll tell you guys if anything interesting happens. Good luck

 

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TMI bro lol. But anyway yeah jump in a cold shower or tuck it into the hip of your pants and go out in the cold. It'll die down very quickly. Soon all you'll be thinking about is how cold it is.

 

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I spoke too soon!! What happened exactly? I believe that the experience I had this morning, where I was practically edging with my morning wood, left me with cravings for the rest of the day, which is how I gave in. Starting from the time I was playing with my morning wood, I've been flooded with thoughts of PMO and mental images of stuff I've masturbated to in the past. My advice to anyone else who might come across this morning wood situation is to not entertain it. Ignore it and move right along. As Jp91 said, I should have jumped in the cold shower... mind you, the temperature outside is hovering around the freezing point.

On the bright side, I've heavily cut down on my PMO tendencies overall. For this calendar week, this relapse will be my one and only session. Last week, I masturbated 3x. The week before that- 6x. And I used to masturbate 15-20x a week for over a decade prior to that. I never truly expected to end my PMO overnight, even though that's what I aimed for in order to trick my subconscious mind. So, while I do not justify relapsing today, I am content with the level of progress I've made so far, and I couldn't have done it without all you YBR peeps. Remember guys, the best days are yet to come!!