...the day I stopped waiting for other people's advice or tricks to be the magic bullet solution. I'm now just over 4.5 years sober from porn. I would have told you then that M/O was also an issue, but once the porn went away the M/O reduced by 98%. I was a porn addict. I was in therapy for years long before I ever admitted to my porn addiction, trying to deal with my anxiety and feelings of always being out of place in the world. While it did come to light that I was bipolar, and that was important to contain, I just kept waiting for the piece of advice or the pill that would make my life fall into place and I'd become like all of the other people. Through my 20+ years of porn addiction and alcoholism, there were certainly times where I was very weak and I know that I certainly did some damage to my pleasure centers by nuking my brain with dopamine, oxytocin and all of those others happy chemicals. I am grateful for my therapist. She is an amazing guide through my psyche and has helped me connect so many threads that I finally understand the web of who I am, and I couldn't have done it without her, but she couldn't have done it without me...and for too long I was waiting for that. I didn't know about NoFap or boards like this where most guys try to white-knuckle it, or theories like the whole Red Pill thing back when I was in early therapy. I think there are holes to all of those modalities, but if they work for you -- actually work -- then I think they're fine because it's YOU who is making them work. I sat in a few months worth of Sex Addicts Anonymous meetings mostly listening to men complain about their sexless lives and realized that the only way you're going to change is if you truly become committed to change. My therapy moved in a bit of a cognitive behavioral direction and that started to make all the difference. How often do you ask yourself, "Why am I about to do this?" "What is motivating me here?" "Why am I having these feelings?" At one point in my recovery, I was probably doing this 25 times a day. Now, there is a level of muscle memory that has sunk in. Triggers are hardly a bother, for both porn and alcohol. I'm proof that anybody can beat this thing, but I'm also proof that this isn't like a broken leg where it just heals on its own, and it's not like an illness that antibiotics will take care of. It's not a mental condition that a few pills will contain and nobody is holding back the secret that will make you better. It's on you. You need to make the commitment to change. It's not a desire, it's not a hope. It's a commitment. You get your ass up everyday to go to work. You visit your family on holidays. You pay your taxes. You know how to handle commitment. You just have to decide this is worth it and once you take control -- well, the hard work has only just started -- but at least you've taken that legit first step.