[SUCCESSFUL REBOOTERS] Does the thought of porn disgust you?

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by Dec, Feb 17, 2015.

  1. Dec

    Dec Member

    Just a simple question as for the first time earlier I felt kind of weirded out by the thought of porn. I hope this occurs more often later in my reboot
     
  2. Superunknown

    Superunknown Member

    I have zero desire to see porn.

    Sure, the idea of it will prolly never lose its novelty. I caught myself thinking of a girl that i had just went on a date with, and i wanted to jack off to her. But didnt. Cant do it or ill get ED again.

    But i mean after a few y ears of not viewing it, you forget it.

    Sorry I am rambling, just my thoughts.
     
  3. wryetu

    wryetu New Member

    Isn't that what people used to do though? Back in the olden days?
     
  4. Dec

    Dec Member

    I have very little ED so the reboot is purely about me being a more confident person and better with women. I don't mind if my thoughts are of girls ive been on a date with as that's better than fantasising over porn
     
  5. fappedoff

    fappedoff Member

    Whether I could be classed as a successful rebooter is a matter of opinion, I am on my 94th day clean and still going strong. But here is my 2 cents (or 2 pence to be precise as I live in Scotland).

    Being off porn, and having the chance to think and dissect my addiction, I have come to veiw porn as a very strange thing. When I used it I had this view that it was an expression of sexual liberty. As sex is natural, then so is masturbation and so is desiring sexual activity and so on and so fourth, as you sit in your room alone PMOing like crazy. I believed that people who starred in it must really enjoy it and the women who did it were in some way sexually empowered and expressing that through their porn career.

    However, I now see that as being completely false. Porn is not a true reflection of sex, sexuality or genuine sexual expression. Its heavily surgically enhanced and photoshopped in many cases. It has no real reflection of sexual tastes and fantasies of real people. It provides an endless choice of fetish but it is not real. It does not tell you "No I don’t want to try that", or "No you ain’t sticking that in me" or "go a bit slower, you are hurting me". It does what ever you want it to do, but without you really knowing what you want, and simultaneously in the case of the Porn addict, it fucks your real sexual mojo to the point you ain’t even having real sex.

    I don’t believe in banning it or preventing people from using it. But to me it is nothing more than a glorified blow-up doll, albeit one that can completely screw your mind and your sexual energy.

    Rant over! :D

    PS, i don’t see having sexual thoughts over a cute girl you know as being a bad thing at all. Early in your reboot it is not the best thing to do but it is much more natural than porn use. Just don’t get hooked on it. If you see a girl you like, try your luck!
     
  6. natureboy1209

    natureboy1209 New Member

    I have found when I think of porn or see a sex scene in a movie I get an uneasy feeling. Almost like seeing a crazy bitch hate her guts ex girlfriend or something, you know. But there are no feelings whatsoever, the thought of porn makes me cringe.
     
  7. GuitarGuy13

    GuitarGuy13 New Member

    During my 7th month no P, just thinking about the kind of stuff I used to watch really disgusted me actually. I can't say the same thing now since I went back on P until a month ago.
     
  8. Dec

    Dec Member

    Ah okay. How come you went back on porn guitarguy?
     
  9. DeathToInadequacy

    DeathToInadequacy Nothing in life worth having comes easy....

    Yea it's usually disgusting but during stressful moments I crave it even after almost 4 months, even though now I have a girlfriend I can have sex with . Like if I procrastinate in school, and have a lot of work I wanna pmo, but it's not that I'm horny or really wanna see those actresses, it's that my mind used porn as a relief/escape behavior. I never want it when I'm happy and relaxed. But there are odd and strange moments I have stop myself from even contemplating it, I remind myself that given the fact I know it can cause me ED it's not fair to my girlfriend, let alone myself.
     
  10. divinemasculine

    divinemasculine New Member

    Yes! I have noticed this.
    I found when using porn.I had to condition my mind to accept it.This would often takes up to an hour,to find the "right" video.But in hindsight I was also programming my sexuality to suppress this disgust.

    Now I have noticed i have become a lot more sensitive.My empathy has increased and even "sexy" scenes in mainstream films make me feel uncomfortable.Especially sexy and violent scenes.
    For instance I feel unsettled by the 50 shades of grey posters.
     
  11. Choice-R-Us

    Choice-R-Us New Member

    Not at all. I don't masturbate to porn any more and as a result also don't watch porn. I don't feel uncomfortable with nudity in media (movies, shows, website etc.) or thinking about porn in general.

    I'd like to add, that if you connect negative feelings to parts of your sexuality, like "I am disgusted by porn!" - I don't see that as a healthy thing to do. I'd rather recommend to adopt a mindset of "I don't care about porn".
     
  12. Dec

    Dec Member

    @Choice R Us I agree that this is the right approach. You don't have to be disgusted by porn but you need to think "I have control over my thoughts and porn has no power over me"
     

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