Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by Dwight Williams, Apr 25, 2019.
Keeping my eyes on pure things.
When I quit porn I did not stay strong. I was committed, but not strong. I could not be strong. When I quit every day felt like I was dying. So, rather than try and be strong, I simply accepted the concept that if I had to feel like dying every day, even it was for the rest of my life, I would feel that rather than go back to porn consumption, aka dopamine highs. I accepted the pain, and did not try to avoid it, which made living with the pain easier, almost like it was a companion. In some ways I even tried to increase it, such as binging on caffeine while super anxious. I told myself I did not care if it made it hurt more. I embraced the pain. A long time ago I gave some advice to newbies. Amongst the advice was "learn to love withdrawals." We cannot, really, do that, but accepting them, surrendering to them, helped me get clean. Good news: It goes away after a while. Seriously. Done right, you only feel like you are dying for around 90-120 days, and toward the end of that period, you start to have a lot of relatively painless days. Don't try and avoid the pain; the pain is evidence you are staying clean.
Will I AM.
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