Staying strong

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by Dwight Williams, Apr 25, 2019.

  1. Dwight Williams

    Dwight Williams New Member

    Keeping my eyes on pure things.
  2. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    When I quit porn I did not stay strong. I was committed, but not strong. I could not be strong. When I quit every day felt like I was dying. So, rather than try and be strong, I simply accepted the concept that if I had to feel like dying every day, even it was for the rest of my life, I would feel that rather than go back to porn consumption, aka dopamine highs. I accepted the pain, and did not try to avoid it, which made living with the pain easier, almost like it was a companion. In some ways I even tried to increase it, such as binging on caffeine while super anxious. I told myself I did not care if it made it hurt more. I embraced the pain. A long time ago I gave some advice to newbies. Amongst the advice was "learn to love withdrawals." We cannot, really, do that, but accepting them, surrendering to them, helped me get clean. Good news: It goes away after a while. Seriously. Done right, you only feel like you are dying for around 90-120 days, and toward the end of that period, you start to have a lot of relatively painless days. Don't try and avoid the pain; the pain is evidence you are staying clean.

    Much love.

    Will I AM.

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