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  1. brain123

    brain123 Member

    Thank you. I will indeed stop having sex with them. Also i had lots of sexual thoughts today, had to interrupt them, sometime i just went on thinking about it for 10-20 minutes.

    Went to the gym, and some bar today. Day 8 is coming to an end, and day 9 is coming tomorrow. I feel like if you dont have too much alone time, and you are constantly doing things, beeing out - its way easier. Because then you are tired in the evening when you are home and probably just wanna sleep.

    Lets go to day 9 tomorrow and im always aware that the urge can come around the corner. Im really proud of my ability to stay present with long streaks of frustration and do something else instead. This skill and practise will help me a lot in my day to day life!
     
  2. brain123

    brain123 Member

    Day 9 today. My whole sleep through i dreamed about sex and it was insanely hard to not fap with this boner that i had in the morning. But still i made it.
    I have to leave the appartment now otherwise i get into danger zone with fapping.
     
  3. brain123

    brain123 Member

    After i left the house and my whole day was full of activities - my urges were at zero. this whole day shows me that if i stay present to my emotions and i accept them and stay confident that they are just here to go that i will overcome it. and also have a full day with lots of things to do. thats the key.

    lets go and finish day 9. and lets go to day 10 tomorrow.

    tomorrow i will also approach a few girls. and not let myself get triggered. i dont want to get into chaser effect mode. that one is horrible and throws me off for weeks/months or even years!

    im as confident as i wasnt for a long long time and my self esteem is high right now!
     
  4. brain123

    brain123 Member

    No sex dreams, yesterday, everything feels way more smooter. That is awesome. Now i will leave the appartment reayll fast . Its day 10. FUCK YES!!!!
     
  5. brain123

    brain123 Member

    REMINDER FOR MYSELF:

    The most important thing is to stay present to negative emotions
    interrupt sexual thoughts
    dont get myself into an environment where triggers could happen
    no touching myself.
    no babystepping by watching youtube videos or things like that
    and always keep this journal here.

    also moving a lot, beeing outside a lot, just going home to sleep + approaching woman.

    lets go guys, its day 10. i will make it!
     
  6. brain123

    brain123 Member

    Worked and chilled in my gym spa for 2 hours. Now i feel how the energy wants to move. its funny that it seems like my body just gets more into natural mode again. It wants to move . Before i would just inteprete that to "i wanna fap" but now i see that lots of times its just a lack of movement that makes me feel bad and frustrated. great awareness.
     
  7. brain123

    brain123 Member

    Moved, changed location, went to office to work. Now everything is fine again. Lets move on.
     
  8. brain123

    brain123 Member

    My brain is trying to trick me. I thought a few times to myself - without having a urge - SEEMINGLY - that i should fap. I wanna release preussure. That this is not as important as i think and i should just go it.

    this were thoughts that just crossed my mind during the day.

    i have to be aware that this is nothing me then not beeing present to my feelings and that i was probably not aware how i feel in that moment and got lost in my thoughts.
    day 10 is coming to an END. AND I WILL NOT FAP. guys like muhammad ali didnt fap for months before a fight, no sex, no fap. and im struggling on day 10 - trying to convince me to quit it. this is ridicoulos and i will not give up! LETS GO!!!

    i arranged a date with a girl that i know for years and that i like - for saturday in 2 weeks. and i will also meet new girls.
    didnt approach any today. which was bad. need to focus better next time.
     
  9. brain123

    brain123 Member

    Im gettin tired of nofap. My brain is like "why are you doing this?"
    i didnt approach any girls for the last days, thats frustrating. and im still doing nofap. i have to meet more woman and approach. even the girl that i might meet in 2 weeks, is not real enouhg for my brain. i need something to strive for. right now im doing no fap with no real visible purporse - like having maybe sex soon. i ahve to change this.

    day 11 is coming to an end.
     
  10. FUBB

    FUBB Member

    I have quoted some reminders of what we have said about the benefits of not having sex for a few months. A sacrifice, yeah. But if it means that you have a complete reboot and emerge sexually healthy, it must be worth it. Having sex in the first few months is simply sabotaging your own recovery. It will make a relapse more likely, even inevitable. I strongly urge you to cancel your date.
     
  11. Rengaw

    Rengaw Will log on every other week from 13/10/2016

    Hi brain123,

    Things are looking good for you. Getting the date is a big milestone already but what FUBB is saying is true. Getting aroused during the date might increase urges. That could get your relapsing. Dating girls is always good as a way to resensitise to real women. People are better than pixels. But make sure what your plan on dating is. That's what matters. Take care, I hope you have fun with the girl and still do no fap/no sex.
     
  12. brain123

    brain123 Member

    Thank you FUBB and Rengaw, for gettin my mind straight again. You are right,i should be careful what environment i put myself in. A date or anything like that will probably make my urges stronger again. I want to have the full recovery - because its needed.

    Im at Day 12. Staying present to the negative emotions and not gettin lost in sexual thoughts and interrupting them - thats the key! lets go - lets continue!!
     
  13. brain123

    brain123 Member

    Fuck, i met a girl that im heavily attracted to and i got heavily triggered. and now my body screams for fap. but good that outside and have no enviorenmetn to do it. have to interrupt my thoughts now
     
  14. brain123

    brain123 Member

    Had a relapse after 13 days. Now i want to take a break of nofap, no porn of course and then try again soon.
     
  15. FUBB

    FUBB Member

    You want to take a break from support, encouragement and advice and take on the same challenge, but isolated. :confused:
     
  16. brain123

    brain123 Member

    After having sex with a girl i dont really feel attracted to yesterday, im ready to do nofap again. will again babystep myself into reaching big goals. my first goal is just to get to day 3.

    lets go guys. today is day 1
     
  17. FUBB

    FUBB Member

    What was the point of that? :confused:
     
  18. brain123

    brain123 Member

    little better masturbation with a female basicly lol.

    day 1 is over. was a pretty active day. lets go to day 2 tomorrow!
     
  19. brain123

    brain123 Member

    No urges at all in day 2 so far. I love going on nofap when i dont wanna fap anymore. this makes the first days always pretty easy, unless im gettin into a insanely triggering enviorenment - which doesnt happen currently. lets go! my energy will come back soon.
     
  20. brain123

    brain123 Member

    day 2 is going by super easy. yes
     

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