Something else in my life.

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by Joob, Mar 11, 2018.

  1. Joob

    Joob New Member

    Hello all,

    I am male 43. Never been married, no girlfriends. I am not weird or anything, good around people and women too. Maybe i am a good actor in life? I've known porn since my teens till now. My life needs to change. I am constantly running away from women when it gets serious. The last one i had, i tried but my addiction to porn made me ED. I can't get it up with normal sex.

    I am trying to tackle this one problem at a time. First one is porn. Second would be my fear of commitment with women. I am on day 7 today, here i go!
  2. Guy_Stewart

    Guy_Stewart Well-Known Member

    With you, Sir Joob! With you all the way. One thing at a time: today Porn; tomorrow, mastubating to steps; Sir, baby steps.
  3. Joob

    Joob New Member

    Thank you for your comments and support Guy_Stewart! Meant a lot to me. I didn't know where to go and what to do for support. I googled and found this forum. I never done this before, hell i never post anywhere before. I gotta start somewhere.
  4. Saville

    Saville Well-Known Member

    This is true. The addict is always acting, always posing. Our true self must be concealed at all times, because this is what fuels the addiction.

    They are tied in together, which will become obvious once you are further removed from PMO. It's amazing just how clear things become when we are no longer watching P or fapping.

  5. Squire

    Squire Well-Known Member

    Glad you are here! Keep posting and read other people's journals, you will get a ton of support and ideas. One breakthrough for me was to think of PMO as a behavior I have been using to soothe and medicate myself. So that led me to ask why I felt I needed soothing, and the answer for me was "anxiety." So then I started treating the problem of anxiety (with medication, meditation, self-hypnosis) and also asked what is causing the anxiety? I started exploring back to childhood issues and faulty ways of thinking and talking to myself and working on changing those.

    It has not "cured" me of PMO, but I feel like I'm finally on the right track, going to root issues and not just treating symptoms.

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