Some Advice please?

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by Orpheus5575, Apr 13, 2017.

  1. Billy B.

    Billy B. PMO is NOT an option!

    Excellent. Thats what I kept tellin' myself when things got really hard over the last few months: keep on, see what happens. There's no other viable option, really, is there? Regardless of how long it takes and to what extent we find that pmo was causing us problems, things will get better and easier to handle as our clean-streeks stretch out. Even knowing that things can get worse before they get better, what choice do we have but to keep on? See how it plays out.
     
  2. ejb65

    ejb65 Member

    I decided to use seeking arrangement to have side relationships for sex once a month while i tried to get my sex life going again with my wife. This stopped me expecting too much from my wife and gave time to improve sex with my wife. But it was a deliberate thought out strategy not a response to meeting some woman somewhere. Also both the women i have arrangements with knew what i was doing and were helpful. I don't suggest this works for other people just sharing what i did.
     
  3. Saville

    Saville Well-Known Member

    ejb65's advice might have actually sounded reasonable to me back in the day. Now, is see it for what is: a pile of bullshit wrapped in colored cellophane.

    Orpheus....what's up, dude?
     
  4. Orpheus5575

    Orpheus5575 New Member

    Guys ive been missing for a few weeks lotta shit going on. But i have some news. When i got to 100 days i MO'd twice. No porn to this point. I began to notice several differences in my body, ny penis began to fill out while flaccid. First time in a couple of years or more that this tiny,useless dick was gone. I began to get really tingly down there. Then i began to get the odd MW first time in years. Doesnt happen every morning, but even the odd time is a great feeling. A few weeks after i MOd i did it once more,no porn, just images of my last sexual encounter with a girlfriend. I came gangbusters each time. I was so happy, then i got a text from this lady who is not my wife,and she made a remark about a sex toy event we shared and i could feel my dick responding. No solid erection yet but to get some response was amazing. I am back on the wagon again no PMO and i will do nothing solo until i meet up again with this lady. I am very anxious to see how i will react physically when we engae. I dont think i will be able to have penetrative sex, but if i could cum,that would be amazing. For the first time i feel that i am getting somewhere, after the 100 days, i was dying to see what would happen if i masturbated, and it was great to experience O again. I hope that a proper erection is the next phase,and possibly rewiring with a female. Feeling good!!
     
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  5. Orpheus5575

    Orpheus5575 New Member

    @Saville yo dude ive been thinking about you while i was away i hope all is well with you. I have come to realise that my wife and I are no more. To many differences and too much water under the bridge. In a way its a weight off. Now i can concentrate on myself. I think i am moving in the right direction, absolutely no interest in porn anymore. I MOd three times in in a few weeks and i could walk away from it, no worries about getting sucked back into a frenzy of edging. I feel so positive its amazing. Now i am looking forward to a a sexual encounter with a real person again.
     
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  6. Saville

    Saville Well-Known Member

    Well, you gave it the old college try and that's all you can do. It takes two people who really want to make the marriage work and if it's done, it's done. Glad to see you're feeling positive. Be careful the MO'ing, though, as it can become habitual again in no time flat. Wait for that real person!
     
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  7. ejb65

    ejb65 Member

    Well i have been successful in stopping using porn although the seeking arrangement stuff was not the important thing.
    It was the accumulated of a series of short-term success over 3 year and 2 months using the slight edge approach that it mention on this website.
    I actually found it better to forget about the long-term. just concentrating on each short-term improvement meant the long-term objective happened automatically.
    That's amazing any big thing is possible if you just break it down into a series of small things and concentrate on just doing each small thing.
    Haven't used porn at all this year 2018 and its been easy now. I feel a bit weird saying that but it happened...amazing....
     
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