So I have a chance to go on a date with high potential of sex... but should I?

Discussion in 'Erectile Dysfunction / Delayed Ejaculation' started by cbformula, Sep 11, 2019.

  1. cbformula

    cbformula New Member

    So I am about 10 days in of my reboot. No porn, no masturbation or orgasm. I even try to stop looking at hot girls I see on the street etc. I think its helping, my morning wood is coming back i think and sometimes ill do a test to see if I can get myself an erection with thoughts of women alone. Thats thoughts without porn or anything as dramatic as porn, just real connection thoughts and sometimes I think I can get an erection so I think the reboot is having positive effects.

    However, I have a chance to go on a date this weekend and frankly theres a high chance of sex to follow.

    My question is:

    Will sex throw off my reboot and I have to start over?
    Should I go on this date or just avoid intimacy in general for a month or so?
    I am concerned about my ability to perform.

    Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
  2. Pete McVries

    Pete McVries Well-Known Member

    My personal advice would be as following: Take it slow and travel at your own pace!

    I take it that you have PIED, so personally I would have avoided sex in your situation. I had PIED for more than 10 years and when I recently managed to recover from it, I took it super slow and I also had more than 100 clean days under my belt before I dared to try to have sex. But it is entirely up to you. If you feel comfortable to try it, go try it. If you feel like not being able to perform would derail you reboot and throw you off mentally, I strongly advise against it. Rebooting and recovering is a marathon not a sprint. You are in for the long run. The most important thing is that you recover long-term from having PIED. If that means, that you have to deny yourself from having sex in the first 90 days, then so be it. From my own experience, I would also advise not to go on "sex on the first date"-dates because performance anxiety is much higher if you don't know/trust the person you are about to have sex with.

    Take care
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