Sorry to hear things are so difficult right now man. When I read your post I want to scream 'get out of there!, get away from your wife, mother and female psychistrist!'. I think because it brings up feelings of my own, and (I think) I can understand what you feel. Would it make sense to take some 'time off', time for yourself? Would it make sense to look for a male therapist? I went to a female therapist for my mother and porn issues years ago, and she adviced me to also go to a male therapist or group, because women can not understand us. It makes sense! You have the right to be angry at your wife. You cheated. Bad choice. But come on, you're not a criminal. Besides, weren't you dissatisfied before you cheated? You have your rights to be happy in life and relationships. You are not letting us down man, we're just happy to have you here and want you to be OK. Your advice is of someone with experience and with the same struggle as us. That is what we need!