Screw#Femdom [OPEN GROUP]

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by RolandOfGilead, Dec 12, 2014.

  1. WanderingSoul

    WanderingSoul Member

    I stopped watching that stuff for the final time roughly 3 months ago. I can genuinely say it just doesn't appeal to me anymore and I actually get very aroused at the idea of being the dominant one now. I can't tell you for certain when they will go away because me quitting has been a continual process, where i relapsed a few times over the past 3 years. But it definitely won't take that long. I think realizing this fact helped me as well:

    Guys into femdom are into it because deep down they have some insecurity about their manhood. I thought no way, that can't be me. Because Ive always been above average intelligence and confident in the real world. But reflecting on my life, I realized i grew up in a household where my dad wouldn't follow through on what he said, and when you learn not to trust men like that, it fucks with your psychology. My mom constantly complained about my dad not coming through and sort of emasculated him with her words. I didn't realize any of this till the last few years. Once you become aware that femdom is really a mental illness and then start seeking normal relations with women, it goes away completely. So the reason I couldn't really quit before was because there was part of that thought "hey maybe I'm just supposed to be into femdom". But no that's not the case at all. Just leave it in your rearview and move on.
     
  2. IWillWin03

    IWillWin03 New Member


    And you're able to have great normal sex now? That's all I want with my girl. I want to be the kind of man she respects for being strong.
     
  3. WanderingSoul

    WanderingSoul Member

    I haven't had the opportunity for sex in a while, I'm away for school with not much of a social life, but I'm certain yes when I get the opportunity I will very much be able to have regular sex. The shit I was into just seems really stupid now. I don't think femdom porn would fuck with so many guys if they only indulged every now and then. The problem is we use it like a drug and keep taking hits, masturbating when we aren't even really horny. Femdom is much more intense than regular sex.

    If you are worried that because I haven't had sex yet, I assure you not to worry. Literally i've been so horny for regular sex on no fap i almost felt compelled to act out as if I was banging a chick from behind. That's a weird revelation but I feel it might benefit you. literally just take your dick out of the virtual femdom land, and it'll adapt to where you bring it. Just think logically, you've been exposing your brain to femdom for so long, or maybe it got exposed to male emasculation via your mother's behaviour or your sister's behaviour etc and it adapted. Your brain is always adapting and readjusting. i am making small efforts to get myself back involved in the dating game, I really fell off though because of a pot addiction so I have a lot of recovery to do. But for your situation just to do no fap and you'll start loving life again.
     
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  4. IWillWin03

    IWillWin03 New Member

    Do you get random erections or solid morning wood?
     
  5. WanderingSoul

    WanderingSoul Member

    yes cconsistently getting morning wood now after not getting it during years of fapping. Also since being off of that weird shit I've discovered that i am actually naturally very dominant. I would have never believed this, I was always convinced i was just meant to be into femdom. Complete and utter nonsense. I studied the life sciences in undergrad, and minored in neuroscience and psychology. Plus i have been arduously researching this shit for years since It's so relevant to me. I am certain that so many men are into femdom these days because we live in a feminized society where the father's shown on tv are completely incompetent (homer simpson, peter griffin) or just feminine and pussy whipped (phil dumphy), combined with a lack of father figures (single motherhood is skyrocketing), plus feminism which pushes female superiority. Without the proper guidance from strong male authority figures, men are adapting and submitting to women. A lot of men genuinely don't realize that men are the dominant sex. They think "oh some men are dominant and some women are dominant". If you are into femdom, you essentially don't believe deep down that you can rise up and conquer women. if you think me saying that is sexist then you are brainwashed. I am not saying men are better than women, or women are to blame for anything. Those guys who blame everything on women are just pissed of at life. I am going to do a whole post explaining the psychology of all this, but just believe me when I say men are meant to lead and women are meant to follow. Quit this shit, do things to improve your self worth- work out eat healthy pursue goals etc, and you will rediscover your natural dominance.
     
  6. WanderingSoul

    WanderingSoul Member

    One more point, a man should never submit to his woman this will make her lose respect for you. It's a slow process, so guys who say "oh me and my wife role play from time to time and everything is okay" don't realize what's happening. it exactly happened to me. With my first love, I was on top of the world when we started dating. I was dating arguably one of the hottest girls in the grade below me before her, hooking up consistently every weekend at hall parties and my first love was obsessed with me. But my porn addiction got worse and worse because I thought I was just screwed up and into femdom. So i start having my girlfriend do femdom fantasies with me. She never really liked it deep down I could tell, she was just doing it for me because she was really into me. Long story short, 5 years later and she has much much less respect for me now. She literally was obsessed with me when I was acting like king shit. She can't see the new changes i've made and if she ever came back she would be shocked. This is why throughout history if men wanted to play out these fantasies, they went to a mistress in private. Your girl is not meant to be your mommy remember that, if you want mommy's discipline, go see a mistress. But until you are a leader in your life and have control over your sex life, absolutely avoid all femdom.
     
  7. Naruto558

    Naruto558 Member

    fucking finally dude. wandering soul it took you long enough but im glad you understand to never see femdom as a part of you
     
  8. WanderingSoul

    WanderingSoul Member

    haha thanks man. took awhile. the masculine conscientiousness is reawakening in society. Watch out ;)
     
  9. IWillWin03

    IWillWin03 New Member

    Any kind of PIED still? Have you tried with a girl?
     
  10. WanderingSoul

    WanderingSoul Member

    We'll see, I hooked up with an old fling from high school the other day. 5 years ago when that fling first occurred, I gave her up before fucking because my ex was hitting me up and i was still whipped. The ex who was my first and only love so far in life. The ex wants to chill with me now that i am in town for christmas break. So basically fate has given me another chance to bang the first girl that I gave up and pick her over the ex. I have to step and be a man and go for it this time. Wish me luck boys
     
  11. IWillWin03

    IWillWin03 New Member

    Howd it go?
     
  12. WanderingSoul

    WanderingSoul Member

    So it turns out the girl I hooked up with is serious with a guy lol and didn't want to chill. She's messed up lol such a shifty person but I knew she wasn't anything serious i was just hoping to try out getting laid. The ex who wanted to chill is really flaky she might be be down to chill but fuck it she's honestly not worth the time and effort. So unfortunately getting laid will have to wait. But on the positive side, my rebooting has seriously reduced my interest in femdom and i am a lot more interested in realistic sexual experiences like blow jobs etc. i'm going to start getting out of my comfort zone. This next semester it will be a serious goal for me to get back into the dating game and get laid. Enough playing around.
     
  13. alisdaily

    alisdaily Member

    Hello everyone. I have the femdom addiction too. I tried many things including 12 steps for sex addicts and 2times a days prayers and meditation even though I m agnostic. nothing is working . It is my priority to clean my self from femdom and porn. Addicted to femdom for 5 years and porn for 14. I m 35 now. many things in my life are behind because of porn especially in the relationship department. I did however, manage to finish 3 colleges while severly being addicted to porn. I look forward to having any accountability partners.
     
  14. Bossmode

    Bossmode New Member

    Is this thread still alive?
     
  15. Naruto558

    Naruto558 Member

    femdom is and addiction based on learned helplessness . what everyone here needs to do is stop thinking that there some abnormal freak that cant have sex. That is not the case at all. You must not see yourself as a abnormal person that needs to be fixed. You guys also need to stop saying that u have depression and anxiety. thinking that way makes you feel like you are helpless and not in control. that is a part of the trap of femdom it makes u feel as if there is something wrong with you when there really isn't. You gotta believe that you are fully responsible for your every action and that u are in full control of your life. telling yourself that anxiety and depression take that responsibility and control away from you. That is what keeps you trapped in this fetish. As you believe that you are in full control and that you can fully rewire your brain back to normal sexual functioning u are on the path to recovery. So stop the learned helplessness and take full control and responsibility for your life.
     
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  16. Jxabynebk

    Jxabynebk New Member

    I will try to revive this thread.
    So hi, I'm 18 years old and been addicted to femdom/foot fetish porn for 6 years now, so pretty much my whole teenage years. For 2019 I gave myself the resolution of trying to fix this issue by setting reasonable goals to achieve. For the moment I still let myself get aroused by the idea of beautiful women's feet (I'm also into socks and women shoes/boots) but I try to cut anything femdom related when it comes to porn. For the first since I started PMO'ing I haven't watched femdom porn for a whole week. I also try to watch a bit more of vanilla porn to at least desensitize myself to it, since I've been almost exclusively exposed to femdom when it comes sexual/porn stuff, and I think I'm enjoying it more and more. So, yeah, step by step I guess.
    Would be great if anybody else wanted to share where they are now in this process. Get this good old thread going again! ;)
     
  17. CJJackson

    CJJackson Active Member

    I had this problem I started about a year ago. And have had a lot of success. It really starts with just committing yourself. I’ve prob watched the amount of porn I would’ve watched in 2 weeks within the last year and I was heavily addicted. Just keep busy start going to the gym and getting out to meet real women that’s what helped me
     
  18. UK Don

    UK Don New Member

    Hi all, I’m 20 and have been addicted to femdom since the age of 11. Let’s get this thread going again eh? Whilst many of the original members may have already rebooted or stopped using this site, we may as well carry it on with a new group.

    Naturo, I can really resonate with your comment, I think what you say carries great value and should be remembered when one feels urges.

    Personally I have had a really bad christmas holiday and binged intensely, I worry my exams over the next two weeks will suffer greatly but oh well, that’s just more motivation to kick this habit.

    I’m feeling determined I will make this a year of change and prosperity. My aim is rather simple - i do not want any part in anything I would be scared to talk to mates about.

    Let’s keep this going gents, I’ve tried to kick this for years and it’s incredibly difficult solo.
     
  19. fedmom

    fedmom Member

    The cause of sexual masochism disorder is very low serotonin levels which can be increased with swear words. There is a method in my profile for how to do this.
     

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