Rules for Group Journals [READ THIS FIRST]

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by TheUnderdog, Jun 11, 2013.

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  1. TheUnderdog

    TheUnderdog Active Member Staff Member

    What are groups?

    Groups are basically global journals where members give each other support.

    Here are the rules:

    1) Each group must be given a name.

    2) Each group will have an administrator (the one who creates it).

    3) The title of each group must end with: [GROUP].

    4) The administrator will decide how many members the group will have.

    5) Each group must have a minimum of 5 members and a maximum of 15 members.

    6) If the group is open to new members, the title must end with: (X spots left).

    7) You can ONLY be a member of ONE group. This is very important.

    8) You must participate and post frequently on the group, at least once a week.

    9) After joining the group, each member must make an "introductory post" where they talk about their current reboot situation.

    Let's get this started!
  2. totallyyours

    totallyyours Loyalty, honor, and a willing heart

    Thank you! Excellent rules.
  3. totallyyours

    totallyyours Loyalty, honor, and a willing heart

    Either or. Get more guys in here!
  4. freedomfromcybersex

    freedomfromcybersex rebooting my brain, reclaiming my body.

    ok great - now where do i click to actually make the introductory journal entry please!?
  5. totallyyours

    totallyyours Loyalty, honor, and a willing heart

    Any group that is accepting new members or create a new group. You can also have a personal journal from the main page: click your age group then New Topic:
  6. Are nation or language specific threads considered okay? I came up with the idea of creating a group for Hungarian people.
  7. lmartyw

    lmartyw Guest

    I would be interested in being a part of or even starting a Gay Reboot Group.

    Even though there is a limit to the number set for a group, and no allowance to be a member of more than one; can othes on the open forums see what is going on inside a group? I don't understand how it can be private and those not a part of the group allowed to make comments. Please forgive my ignorance.

  8. Pwidow

    Pwidow Want my husband back.

    Is there a support group for wives of Porn Addicts? If not here, somewhere?
  9. totallyyours

    totallyyours Loyalty, honor, and a willing heart

    I'm not sure about here but do type in the search bar for wives, SO (significant other), spouse, partner, etc.

    Some places I've seen them are Feed the Right Wolf and Through the Flame forums. However, just glancing at some of the journals, some are extremely harsh (which they have a right to be), and even incredibly unhelpful or harmful in my opinion. Some women blame themselves, drastically despair, and make the addiction more about them than it really is. (Then again, this may just be how women "vent" online!). Some are very confused about sex (aren't we all but one is concerned about PMO while having sex toys :-\) but the fact that they post so much and so frequently muddies the water, distracts, and takes up a ton of internet space with no real help, no advice, no hope, and probably leaves them worse off than they were before by dumping fuel on an inferno of rage, depression, and despair (I'm not exaggerating).

    As a man, I get very depressed reading these sometimes since they are so long and negative. However, sometimes, rarely, they give me a glimpse of motivation and hope (about once every few thousand words or so... these are women and they love words). I pray that they somehow help the people writing and reading them. I don't see how it's possible though.

    You seem like you genuinely want help. Maybe you should start a thread here and ask the admins to give you a designated forum! This site one of the more honest areas of the internet about PMO.
  10. Pwidow

    Pwidow Want my husband back.

    I appreciate your perspective. While I realize that my husband's porn addiction is less about me than him--and has a complete biological mechanism behind it, it totally affects me 100%. It has permeated EVERY SINGLE facet of my life. I have allowed it to hurt me and change me too. Women that choose to help, support, and stay with these men are just as damaged as the men addicted, albeit in a different way. There is a lot of grief that I am dealing with. This addiction was the death of my amazing husband, and what we are attempting is akin to raising him from the dead. I would just like support in this journey from women who have been here, the stages of grief I should anticipate, how to cope with relapses, the right and wrong things to say and do to help him recover, and reinforcement that I am not the cause, even though my husband blamed much of his behavior on me.
  11. totallyyours

    totallyyours Loyalty, honor, and a willing heart

    I'm sorry. I know women are much more emotionally connected than men but I still don't fully understand it. I'm sure PMO of a spouse has massive effects to a woman's mind. You can visit those sites and I hope they can help in some way. The videos on Your Brain on Porn, Christopher West, and Jason Evert would be very helpful to your husband. There's also a free email course at Feed the Right Wolf. There's plenty of strategies in these forums. A keyword search on a variety of topics would yield helpful results. I don't see many wives here but you can do a search.

    It probably won't happen quickly but you can help him and he can help himself with all the great resources out there. With any addiction, it has to be replaced with something better: ideally giving one's self to others, which is actual love.
  12. Chris Jay

    Chris Jay Never be afraid to take the leap of faith.

    how do I start a journal? im rebooting again and I have a lot to tell you guys I just joined and am pretty new to all of this
  13. totallyyours

    totallyyours Loyalty, honor, and a willing heart

    Journals are here:

    Find your age and click NEW TOPIC.
  14. MsbtNnoPorn

    MsbtNnoPorn Tryin to control.

    too bad very few people actually obey the rules and understand the purpose of this category. this could be a really good tool for this forum.
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