Relapsed after more then 2 years of no PM. Started again couple of questions

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by Anewlife, Oct 29, 2014.

  1. Anewlife

    Anewlife Member

    Dear reader.

    Thank you for reading this,

    One month ago i relapsed to P after more then 2 years of no PM. It was a very weird experience and i will never ever do it again.
    Weird thing was, i couldn't get an good solid erection while watching these couple of videos... While i could get an solid erection while having sex

    During these 2 years of no porn and no masturbation i started with no PMO for three months, after that i started and continued to have orgasms (during sex alone, didnt M once during these 2 years) however, i could get it up for my girlfriend after al this time but could still not achieve an solid erection to touch alone.... Also my libido during these years was zero to none.

    Question is, i started a new reboot, i am now 30 days PMO free, continued having sex during these 30 days but this time without orgasm.
    Try to keep fantasy to a minimum.

    Is it possible to heal while having sex? erections are 90% again at the moment. libido is still non existent..

    I hope someone can give me some good advice on my subject.

    If there are any questions please ask,

    Thanks in advance, i am willing to do everything it takes to heal completely and can archive erections to touch alone.

    p.s. i am an healthy male and work out at least 4 times a week.
  2. Mitchellzp

    Mitchellzp New Member

    Hey man! I would just like to say I've been struggling with pied for about 2 years noww. I keep trying new methods and what I find to be working well is. No Pmo obviously, no tv no radio no social websites! The less fake stimulation you have the better! Fantasy is a killer and can put you in a flatline

    I tried rebooting multiple times but always looked at Facebook/Instagram watched TV ect!

    So far I'm a month Pmo free without a fake stimulant

    So far the withdrawals are a lot worth than ever before so I know my brain is doing something!

    I think the only way to reboot is to cut everything out! Live without technology!

    I'm in flatline right now but hopefully will come out!

    The only way to cure a deep addiction is to hit it at every angle!

    Good luck, hope my advice helps
  3. gameover

    gameover Age: 26

    Issue here is i think your expectations of a 'Healthy' libido. If you can get erections for sex, want to have sex with your partner etc then your fine. Your not 15 years old so you likely are not going to crack boners all day and think about sex 24/7.

    As for the porn i noticed the same thing 1.5 years ago after nearly 6 months clean i wasnt getting hard watching the videos and still don't really unless i touch myself. It doesn't mean much at all really, Just it doesn't turn you on anymore probably because deep down you know its bad and fake etc After knowing about ED/Addiction to it you see it differently.
  4. Anewlife

    Anewlife Member

    Thank you for the reply, I am keen to getting an erection to my own touch because gabe and told me that getting an erection to your own touch whitout fantasy one of the signs of total recovery.. i also think that it is not normal that i CAN get an erection for my girlfriend but not by myself..

    As far as the libido goes, i dont have it, also not for my girlfriend. I only have sex to keep her happy, i can have it but i dont enjoy it as much as i should. I didnt say i want to be horny al day... I just want my libido back thats all.
  5. Anewlife

    Anewlife Member

    Hey thank you for your reply, your story seems similar to mine..
    I also started my reboot while still watching tv etc. but i found out soon that this wasnt the way to go.
    TV still gave me dopamine hits like commercials or tv shows with women.
    I cutted it out completely just like my smartphone, facebook, whatssap, social media, youtube.. I only go on
    the computer to go on yourbrainonporn etc nothing else.

    I am gonna try focusing on having as little fantasy as possible.
    thank you
  6. Anewlife

    Anewlife Member

    Hello gameover,
    thank you for your reply.. I also think that it has something to do with knowing that is fake etc.
    I never go back to this stage again.
    Succes with your reboot
  7. Anewlife

    Anewlife Member

    Yes i can have an 'perfect" erection (90% or so) have morning wood almost every morning, but still no libido whatsoever.
    also no libido looking at other women. since the start of this whole no PMO i have no libido.
  8. Anewlife

    Anewlife Member

    any more insight on this subject???
  9. CerebralAssassin

    CerebralAssassin New Member

    try some aphrodisiacs like Maca,Zinc,Horny goat weed etc.
  10. ambush

    ambush New Member

    Have you ruled out physical causes.
  11. coolmusti

    coolmusti Go hard or go home

    Your problem isn't porn. Lol 2 years no pmo yet you can't get the ill guy up? Ha ha ha get your hormones checked buddy, you've got major hormonal issues. Your DHT ( dihydrotestosterone) levels must be low. Get your estrogen levels checked out along with testosterone and shbg.

    DHT controls physical penis hornieness, dopamine controls psychological horniness.

    I take avena sativa ( green oat extract) which raises DHT and free testosterone.
  12. Anewlife

    Anewlife Member

    As i said earlier.. i can get an erection for sex but my libido just isnt there. Nothing wrong with my testosterone and estrogen levels whatsoever.
    but thanks for your reply.
  13. joshhope

    joshhope Guest

    HERBAL LOVE (google it )



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