Lesson 2. I used to dwell a lot on my past social faux pas, obsessively. Ever since I started rebooting, when those memories pop up, I just think to myself, "Those are the traits I used to have. I'm not that person anymore, I'm turning into someone else." This is my outline for that person. Consistency and self-control in all things. Maintaining order in my daily affairs and inner life, which I need to grow and progress. Unflappable in my relationships with women. Integrity in my relationships with everyone. Industriousness, competence and focus at work. Ability to prioritize my wants and needs in the most productive manner. There are no shortcuts to success. Playfulness in social settings. Physical and emotional strength. Caring and generous - making life better for others. It's late for me, but marriage and fatherhood too. The ability to deal constructively with stress. Contribute to my community. Channel my creativity through my songwriting and guitar playing. Achieve things and be recognized for them. Attract others by having something to offer.