Rebooting since more than 90 days, going through a phase I don't understand

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  1. kapsblock

    kapsblock New Member

    I am 27 year old virgin male having 15 years of porn history and have PIED and porn addiction. These are my previous threads -

    I have been rebooting since more than 90 days now, but I am going through a phase which I don't understand. I have been almost completely free from PMO during this time(other then surfing once or twice craiglist and reddit for sexual ads) and I have had nightfalls during this time. I have stopped porn, but have continued regularly on facebook, twitter etc. Although it has been advised to be completely free from social media, but in the absence of any social life I do not have any other option. which means I have been feeding my brain a virtual simulation which is not porn but a mild filler for porn. Could you guys let me know if I should completely avoid social media?(facebook , twitter etc)

    Also, I don't exactly understand what's going on - I am no longer feeling attraction towards women - don't feel a need or interest to talk to them. Perhaps this is because I have made my brain understand that I am going through a flatline period in which I will no longer feel attraction towards women. But the issue is that this period has going on for too long.

    Could you guys please tell me if you also want through the same situation ? Is it normal ? Appreciate your response.
  2. chrism

    chrism It's time to make a change.

    Key man, Im 28, and have been using P for a similar amount of time to you.

    Iv been aware of my addiction for like 3 years now (maybe a little more). For me I have personal deactivated my facebook, and deleted my twitter, instagram, flickr, tumblr and any other random social media accounts. This has helped me personal, but only you will know if this is good for you.

    I to have a very lacking social life, after splitting up with my GF of 6 years about a year ago, I then came to learn that the people i thought were my friends were not there for me I now only have two friends let, one has a family so is very busy, and the other lives a long way away. It can be hard when there are few people around to be social with.

    I myself have been actively trying to get out into the world to find new friends. Its very difficult, but I'll tell you what has helped for me.

    I go climbing, this has allowed me to have brief chats with people at the climbing centre, I also take a book with me to the pub and read while I have a few drinks, this has allowed me to talk with people at the pub and if I hadnt been to socially anxious I could have gone with people to other pubs on their nights out. And lastly, I have just found a site called 'Meet up', its not a dating site, its just where people form groups and you can meet people who have common interests.

    For me the flat lines last for varying amounts of time, I just try not to rush things and just focus on trying to fill my time with being in some way productive.

    Good luck, and yeah I definitely find could the days to help. as well as having a spread sheet that shows me how well I am doing over an extended period of time.

    Stay strong and just know that at least you are doing something to beat the addiction.
  3. kapsblock

    kapsblock New Member

    Thanks a lot for your comment brother, appreciate it
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