Rebooted, rewired & recovered – 2 years clean, PIED gone!

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Pete McVries, Jan 5, 2021.

  1. Pete McVries

    Pete McVries Well-Known Member

    It is totally understandable that you want to measure recovery and watch out for signs if you are recovering or if you are already recovered or if you recover at all. But in my mind, there is no reliable or valid method to actually do that. You might get morning wood and still have PIED, you might not be getting morning wood and still have PIED. You might get wet dreams or you don't. From what other members share in that department, there seem to be so many individual differences that measuring recovery through the observation of morning wood strength or the frequency of wet dreams simply can't be considered a valid method. I will repeat myself until everyone tells me to shut up :D: Be patient! Does it matter in the end, if it took you 60, 90, 120 or 270 days to fully recover from PIED? From a subjective perspective, it seems like the genereal success rate of people who endeavour to reboot and recover from PIED is rather low. So recovering at all is already a huge win for you and your personal life no matter if it took a while. Therefore, it is so much more important to shift your focus to establishing a day to day lifestyle that decreases the chances of you relapsing and ensures your well-being lastingly. There is no quick fix for it, thus only fundamental changes are going to yield fruit.

    I will tell you a story about measuring recovery. One day before I first had sex again, I tried putting on a condom while being on my own. I couldn't bring myself to achieve an erection that was good enough to put on the condom. The next day, I had sex two times without any problems. Same thing the day after.

    What do you make of it? You will see the results when they count which is when you have sex. Everything else is background noise ;)
  2. Doper

    Doper Well-Known Member

    I think this should be elaborated on for those who mistake the meaning of this passage and then their hearts sink through the floor.
    Abstaining/hardmode etc. DEFINITELY WORKS. The problem is the extreme addictive nature of the product, and the fact it takes a really long time, and you have to be close to perfect.
    It's very much like becoming a bodybuilder. How many bodybuilders, or even reasonably healthy people, do you see?....not many. We all know eating the right foods and lifting weights will get you jacked, it's just really hard for most people to keep the dedication. So that is the cause of the low success rate, not that abstaining doesn't work.
    I understand most people reading this understand this, but...
  3. Pete McVries

    Pete McVries Well-Known Member

    That is exactly what I was trying to say. Thanks for clarifying my phrasing ;)
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  4. Jose

    Jose New Member


    But I Don't think that the rate of recovered people is so low. First of all, we don't have resl stadistics of that. And most of guys when recover just left the forum and nobody knows more. In my particular case I know that probably what I need is be in hard mode few months, but I can't because of my gf. Im beginning with her and even I have told her about this, I Don't want private her of sex during this months. So Im adapting the process and I will ser what happens. What make me feel terrible fear is that stories of guys who are years doing that and can't heal PIED. But, who knows, Patience and hope is the only thing we can't lose. It would be very positive more science and study about the importance of avoid or no the Orgasm in the process of heal PIED. If you know some studies about that I would be very gratefull with you. Thanks so much.
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  5. thx_for_the_memes

    thx_for_the_memes New Member

    Wow, congratulations. I have also been spending a large chunk of my life with ED. Who cares, all that matters is now. I will have recovered by the end of this year, no ifs and buts.
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  6. Pete McVries

    Pete McVries Well-Known Member

    As I said, it's my subjective perspective. Maybe there is a plethora of people who only read, reboot, and ride into the sunset happily without any issues. My impression differs though based on what I perceive here on the forums. All the more reason to devote top priority in your life to fixing this thing.

    And I totally agree, more studies on all things porn induced sexual malfunctions would be welcomed. But guess who has money to support studies who aim to prove how harmless if not healthy and life-enriching porn is? Very similar to the alcohol industry which spends millions of dollars each year to keep up appearences that they don't want you to become addicted. Like placing small stickers on their bottles reminding you to drink responsibly. Oh, and by the way, they do not want you to evaluate how effective such measures are because, they 'just work' like apple products :^)
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  7. Vin12

    Vin12 New Member

    hi bro i want to ask you if we can have normal sex after recovery , i am on day 490 hard mode and not able to recover fully yet and is in flatline i wana marry
  8. El Fin de un Ciclo

    El Fin de un Ciclo New Member

    Everyone returns to normal sexual function after several months whether they have orgasms or not.
    I'll bet a thousand dollars you have a problem that has nothing to do with your past PMO. Your problem is something else. I know because I have read ALL of your posts here and on NOFAP.
  9. Freedom from Servitude

    Freedom from Servitude Active Member

    Congratulations, Pete. It is inspiring to read that you have got to the place where you want to be. Thank you for taking the time to post in detail about your experiences. I have appreciated your ongoing support on this forum. Keep on living the good life :)
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  10. Pete McVries

    Pete McVries Well-Known Member

    Thanks for your kind words, Freedom from Servitude! :)

    I would like to return the compliment: Your Journal was always a worthwhile read and your longterm sobriety is something I look up to and aim for!
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  11. RuinedMyLife

    RuinedMyLife New Member

    It's relieving to know I can get back to my "normal" ways of being around a woman. Porn viewing gave me this warped view of women and what sex should be like. I know there is light at the end of this tunnel and I can't wait til I start to see the small dot of light, knowing I'll reach it eventually with hard work and dedication. Thank you .
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  12. ronkumar

    ronkumar New Member

    Such a inspiring story. Thanks for sharing with us.
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