Hi Guys, A bit of background. I struggled with ED a lot. I was never very out-going so I never dated much so my only exposure to sex was via porn and or imagination. I don’t watch porn anymore and have dated more the past few years. I’ve been with plenty of girls and can orgasm sometimes but not always. I feel more recovered from where I previously was (where I couldn’t orgasm at all either to DE or losing erections.) Anyways, for my question. Do those of you who have recovered or are on the way to recovery find sex unenjoyable or anti-climatic? That seems to be the case with me. I can’t tell if it is mental or if I just don’t get the physical gratification for it. When I say mental, I mean that the real thing can’t live up to fantasy or novelties I’ve build up in my head so the real thing is unarousing as a result. When I say physically gratifying, I mean that the real thing just doesn’t feel as good as when I do it myself, that maybe my way of masturbation was so unreal that I reduced the sensitivity I would normally have down there. Basically, sex is a lot of work for me to get off. I have to imagine something while thrusting as best I can to make myself go. My girlfriend enjoys the sex but I don’t quite as much. Because it so much work I just don’t look forward to it that much and see it as more of a chore. I honestly enjoy masturbating to my thoughts more. Or it’s possible my girl friend is a bit looser than normal so it makes me work more, but it’s been a while since I’ve been with anyone besides her. It shouldn’t be this way. Anyone else struggle like this?