What you say is all true...abstaining is the only cure and we're always a step away from the pit. But it's not all doom and gloom, we can all live amazing lives by staying free of porn. Of course, I'm looking at the world with rose colored glasses right now because I've been porn free for awhile...on the other hand I've been sucked down many, many times over almost 3 full years, I have no illusions. I just have optimism, and yes, I am an addict. It's no dirty word for me anymore, just a fact.