Question, seeing barely dressed (naked) woman in real life.... Good or bad?

Discussion in 'Ages 20-24' started by Anewlife, Apr 14, 2013.

  1. Anewlife

    Anewlife Member

    Dear reader.

    I am currently on 14 days no orgasm and 110+ days no porn. Today i went to a big bodybuilding event and saw a LOAD of beautifull/barely dressed woman (even 2 naked bodypainted girls) i felt really weird looking at all those girls since i have barely seen any since the past 110 days. I didnt feel horny or sexual arroused at all. also i hadnt had the slightest erection.
    I really like to know if today has had an negative effect on my rebooting process.
    I hope to hear from you.

    Greetings and thanks on forehand
  2. Anewlife

    Anewlife Member

  3. KingCooper

    KingCooper New Member

    IMHO it's not as bad as porn, but has similar aspects (voyeurism) and should therefore DEFINITELY be avoided.

    I'm speaking from personal experience as well because I remember going out on hot summer days in the centre of London (parks, streets, etc), and for a time I used to check out the girls as much as I liked, and I noticed it was building up this weird, pervy kind of vibe in my head. I used to get hard, and leak precum cos I was in this sexually charged state, and it would lead to getting back home and watching porn. I'd even find myself trying to look down girls' tops while on the tube (subway)! And I could definitely feel the dopamine spiking up like crazy just like with porn.
  4. Sexual-healing

    Sexual-healing Face it, to overcome it.

    You might be right but isn't that just human nature? Don't all men do that? The good thing is that it's real, not virtual.
    It might be discouraged to look at 'real' naked bodies during your reboot but after 110 days I don't think it's all that bad. I mean.. when will we ever be allowed to look at women like all men normally do? As long as those real life women don't get you to PMO at home after you've seen them I don't think it's such a big deal.
  5. KingCooper

    KingCooper New Member

    I see where you're coming from (in that it's real and not pixels) but the way I see it is that we evolved to live in small tribes of roughly 150 people, not mega cities of millions of people with endless novelty in terms of young attractive women showing off their bodies (sunbathing in bikinis in parks, walking down the street in mini-dresses, yoga pants, etc).

    I remember watching a travel documentary (Michael Palin in Brazil) where he finds that young guys in Rio use binoculars to check out the hundreds (if not thousands) of girls in thong bikinis on the main beach for hours on end. That must be almost as bad as porn (almost being the operative word cos obviously it's nowhere near as bad as hours of searching and multi-tabbing and jumping through shocking genres of hd porn).

    And obviously just because all or most men do it, doesn't make it healthy. The same could be said about porn lol.

    Obviously it's not as bad on day 110 compared to day 10 lol. But I think you should aim to only allow yourself to be aroused by women who you might actually have sex with, not ones who get you all hot and horny, but you can't actually do anything about it with them.
    Imagine it's a busty married girl at work who wears ridiculously low cut tops. Even if I'm totally rebooted, I'd still try to avoid checking her out and looking down her top cos there's no point in doing so. It's like a mild version of porn.

    That's just my 2 cents (or should I say pence).
  6. Anewlife

    Anewlife Member

    Thank you for the reply!!
    on that same day ive seen my ex-girlfriend and we made out and cuddled etc.
    Surprisingly i had an rock hard erection when we did this..
    I didnt masturbate during the whole reboot but i had sex (or at least tried) the whole time.
    Should i go whitout sex for a period of time to speed up my reboot?
    i hope to hear from you
    thanks again.
  7. KingCooper

    KingCooper New Member

    Yeah avoiding orgasm for a while would definitely speed up reboot, and is actually crucial if you have porn-induced erection dysfunction.

    However bonding behaviour is good and helps to rewire (flirting, cuddling, kissing etc.) so you should definitely keep doing it if you can. This is because it releases oxytocin which is excellent and which is missing from porn and masturbation.

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