Prostitutes addiction ! What a mess ! :(

Discussion in 'Erectile Dysfunction / Delayed Ejaculation' started by hollow, Apr 24, 2015.

  1. hollow

    hollow Lost & Found

    Hello everybody,

    Straightforward my real trouble nowadays is that I am too much addicted to prostitutes !

    I used to have severe pied which I thought it can be cured by rewiring with prostitutes. I started visiting them regularly after 100 days of rebooting. My case got better one by one till having sex with them was never an issue. I discovered later that I am not that turned on when it comes to sleeping with my gf or any normal girl ! and it has taken me too long time to sleep with my gf !

    Now I am trying to reboot again and go clean with very low urges to relapse, but urges to visit sex workers or travel for a sex trip has been always dominating .. today I masturbated for firsrt time to calm down. I am too afraid cause these urges leads to peeking online while searching for sex workers around. While rewiring with hookers is the worst thing any P addict could do. It even hurts me that I am encouraging such dirty trade by visiting prostitutes !

    Any ideas or suggestions please to carry on going clean ?
     
  2. lesliejohnson

    lesliejohnson New Member

    I think it is your mindset. You thought prostitute is something dirty and that turned you on.

    You need to look into the why you are no longer turned on by regular girl and your GF. Are they less attractive than prostitutes you saw?

    Secondly, if you have a GF, why are you visiting escorts?

    Finally, moderation is key. How often were you visiting?

    When it comes to high-dopamine activity, you need to exert self-control. If you were blessed with the good-look of Brad Pitt and have one-night stand every night with new women, you'll probably end up in the same situation as visiting escorts and be less turned on by less attractive women.
     
  3. hollow

    hollow Lost & Found

    "You need to look into the why you are no longer turned on by regular girl and your GF. Are they less attractive than prostitutes you saw?"

    My answer for that question is literally what you have written earlier ..

    "I think it is your mindset. You thought prostitute is something dirty and that turned you on."

    My girlfriend is truly cute innocent girl, and thats why she doesn't turn me on, cause dirty pathways in my brain don't get activated when we are together :'(

    Secondly, if you have a GF, why are you visiting escorts?

    I want to do that cause I am currently in a distant relationship, however I haven't visited any prostitutes since I started this streak.

    Earlier I used to visit them at least once a week, it was like porn addiction.
    Feel out of control, then release, followed by regret, then within few days I start looking again. I used to prefer them cause they fulfil my porn needs as long as I choose those who look like favourite stars. And also such relations are hassle free. No anxiety whatsoever.

    I hope to have more self control, to keep my reboot away from any fallbacks
     
  4. lesliejohnson

    lesliejohnson New Member

    Hi Hollow,

    In that case, I'd recommend you to break the escort habit as well. For your situation, I suspect you might have Madonna-Whore Complex.

    In essence, you are turned on by "dirty" women but cannot be turned on by "good" girls.


    You can read more here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Madonna%E2%80%93whore_complex


    I can it fits your situation. Perhaps you can do more research on this subject matter.

    Another idea is to try to change your views on sex and sex worker. I also visited an escort (you replied to my previous topic asking such advice). One thing I realized is that these girls are no different than any normal girls that I've met or dated before. There was nothing "dirty" about them.

    Perhaps, if you loosen your view on sex, paradoxically, you might be less tempted by "dirty" things.
     
  5. hollow

    hollow Lost & Found

    This totally relates to me ! :(

    I feel like I am such a pathetic person ! .. sexual perversion, pied, madonna-whore complex, anxiety, premature ejaculation .. ENOUGH !!

    Thanks for your words though .. too comprehensive
     
  6. lesliejohnson

    lesliejohnson New Member

    Hey Hollow,

    Don't be too hard on yourself. Tell yourself that you are doing better and better every day and forgive and accept yourself.

    Cut out escort and porn completely. You are 21 days into the process. Just take it one day at a time and don't look back.
     

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