Porn-Free January 2019!

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by YBR-Admin, Dec 31, 2018.

  1. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    16. Clear.

    @varunsharma

    I was among the first to reboot. That was over 5 years ago. Back then, "porn addiction" was not a widely accepted concept. There are still mental health professionals who deny it. So, when I first decided I was going to quit, I failed, primarily because I did not believe in porn addiction. So, I researched the concept and found Gary Wilson's Great Porn Experiment video, and finally admitted "I am addicted." That day sucked.

    So, like many of us, I had a lot of depression. I was depressed, at first, when I could not seem to stop. I was depressed because, due to desensitization and escalation, I was watching porn that no longer met my definition of my normal sexuality. When I finally admitted I was addicted, I was depressed because never in my life had it occurred to me I could become addicted, that something could have control over me. When I began my reboot I was depressed because I missed the dopamine rush porn gave me, that little high. When I first started my reboot, which was not a reboot in the sense we use the word here, but, actually quitting for life, I experienced withdrawals, that is physical, mental, and emotional pain when my brain punished me for not fixing. I got very depressed then when, having determined to never go back, no one was around to tell me those horrible feelings would go away, meaning I was depressed when I got up every day and felt like I was dying, from the withdrawals, and I was depressed because I thought to stay clean, I had to feel like I was dying every day, for the rest of my life.

    The depression does fade then vanish. You may have other reasons to be depressed, but the depression associated with quitting porn, starts to fade after a few months. You need to make it to day 90. I think you will see good results around 90.
     
  2. varunsharma

    varunsharma Member

    Perhaps , I need to accept that no matter the reason of my sadness or depression , porn is just an escape , a dopamine high that does nothing good , and just need to stay away from it no matter what the situation is.
     
  3. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    So far so good :)
     
  4. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    @varunsharma

    I am not here to try and talk anyone out of using porn. I am not here to convince people that porn is bad. For those interested in quitting, I can share my insight. Depression existed before the invention of High Speed Internet Porn. I can say HSIP contributed to my depression. I don't consider myself depressed, now that I quit using porn, but, yeah, even after, I have some bad days from time to time. That is life. If porn did not cause problems in our lives there would be no reason to quit it. It caused problems in my life, which is why I quit using. I can tell you that overcoming addiction is a good reason to quit the addiction. I can tell you I feel better after quitting. I cannot tell you that quitting the addiction makes you happy all the time. Better? Yes. Perfect? No.

    17. Clear.
     
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  5. CJJackson

    CJJackson Active Member

    @WilliamOneAndDone i feel like I really relate to everything you’ve said in your last few posts. I’ve been at it for a year now and have some relapses probably 5 in the last 6 months or so but it’s getting easier for me now. I know that if I stay committed and keep using the strategies I have been
     
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  6. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    Great day and fantastic week, can't wait for the weekend!
     
  7. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    Hi guys. Getting addicted takes time and effort, and at the time seems so harmless. By the time we realize we want to quit it, we are spending, at least, time every single day, engaging in the activity. It is OK. Porn addiction is a lesser addiction. No one has ever overdosed on it. No one has died from the withdrawals of quitting. Porn addiction happens when we unconsciously train our brains to respond to P with dopamine rush, every day, multiple times a day, for years. Gary Wilson correctly identified the solution as "just stop". Unfortunately, Gary did not understand that "just quitting" results in depriving the brain of that dopamine high it had come to expect as its daily "normal", or that the brain punishes us when quitting with withdrawals. I am not a big fan of the challenges, because the true goal is quitting for life, as in not using porn to get high, forever. But, the challenges, if done correctly, do help to convince an addict they do not need it all the time, which is true: you do not need it, as in, you can live without it. It never really did a good thing for you, it only just made you high. When you are ready to quit make the choice. Quit.

    18. Clear.
     
  8. Freedom from Servitude

    Freedom from Servitude Active Member

    Hi guys, just posting here for accountability. I am still sober, but have had a tough week with a sickness bug which has hit me hard and caused me to feel very low. I have experienced the occasional temptation to mask the pain with sexual fantasy, porn flashbacks and porn subs on social media but have not allowed myself to seriously entertain that idea.

    Thanks all
     
  9. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    19. Clear. Thanks to everyone posting. It got lonely for a second. Porn addiction sucks but...it's not heroin. That sucks a lot worse. That is more sucky. "More sucky" is the phrase for the day. From the late, great, comedian Richard Pryor:

    I'm not addicted to cocaine... I just like the way it smells.

    I will be back tomorrow to report 20.

    For newbies....this actually gets easy after a while. Being clean, I mean. It's like doing push ups. At first, difficult, but if you do them every day, they become quite doable.

    Much love.
     
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  10. varunsharma

    varunsharma Member

    clear till now
     
  11. Pete McVries

    Pete McVries Active Member

    I had a relapse due to being inebriated early January but other than that I'm clean and I'm determined to finish the January strong. I have completely stopped drinking and it'll be that for a while.
     
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  12. Merton

    Merton Active Member

    Clear so far!
     
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  13. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    20. Clear. No porn. No use of artificial sexual stimulation to ride a dopamine high.
     
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  14. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    solid weekend, so far so good ;)
     
  15. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    21. No porn.
     
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  16. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    22. I think I am the only guy in America who did not watch porn yesterday. I will finish the challenge at 31, clear.
     
  17. CJJackson

    CJJackson Active Member

  18. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    @CJJackson

    Hi CJ, nice to see I am not alone.
     
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  19. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    Edged for 30min on non-nude stuff, had a weird brain fog but feel a bit better now.
    Will keep trying, hope to condition myself to watch standup comedy and fail compilation when I feel stressed instead of edging, it worked very well for me in the past.
     
  20. varunsharma

    varunsharma Member

    clear till now
     

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