Porn-Free January 2019!

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by YourBrainRebalanced, Dec 31, 2018.

  1. YourBrainRebalanced

    YourBrainRebalanced Administrator Staff Member

    Feel free to drop a comment in this thread to live this month porn-free. Also, how did December 2018 go for you?
     
  2. varunsharma

    varunsharma Member

    I am in
     
  3. Bob Fisher

    Bob Fisher New Member

    Just came across your site. I am hoping this will help. I have lost all hope in myself. I have so many things against me but I don't want it to sound like I am whining. Ultimately I know this is my weakness and my responsibility.
     
  4. Gil79

    Gil79 Seize the day

    I'm in for a jolly January!

    Self-discipline December was quite good for me. PMOed halfway though. Had a weak moment where I felt bad and chose to use porn to change my emotional state. Recognized this and get up back on the horse and make the best out the rest of the month.

    Next week I will have to deal with a similar situation and probably same emotional state. So, a fresh chance to do things differently!
     
  5. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    OK. No porn January.
     
  6. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    December was fine. At this point, porn is not a problem for me, at all. Over 5 years clean. Still, I feel place like this allows me to use skill set I developed in quitting. Tomorrow I will post day 3 no porn (for January). I have not done the math, but I am probably about 1,800 days in. In beginning I was very hardcore, meaning I included no PMO and no MO in the rebooting method. I still advise newbies of that, including no O and even no sex, for the most efficient reboot. I still avoid porn because, for us, porn is not porn, but a means to access the underlying problem of achieving a dopamine rush, so I avoid porn to avoid that rush, because it was the rush that was the addictive event. But, I reach O through sex, now, on a semi regular basis, as in multiple times a month, so pretty much back to normal. Anyone reading this, with the problem, can get back to normal, with time, effort, determination, pain.....and wait for it...pain. Getting clean hurts, but the pain does not last forever.

    Much love.

    Will I AM.
     
  7. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    Day 3, no porn. This translate to not using porn to achieve a dopamine high, but, still "no porn." Anyone else want to get clean, this is the way it is done, one day at a time.
     
  8. varunsharma

    varunsharma Member

    no porn till now
     
  9. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    4. Not using today, not using January. Period.
     
  10. Magnolia

    Magnolia New Member

    Hi, i would like to ask a question. Once we quit completely watching pornography, will our sexuality still be so influenced by it?
    Or we can get over it in some way?
    (I was not addicted to porn, But i sadly was a user although im a woman.)
    I want to know if i may have a more genuine sexuality back.
    Thanks
     
  11. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    @Magnolia

    You will, over time, get most of it back. But, you will not go back to a time before your brain experienced the dopamine rush that porn can produce. Porn is more efficient at producing that rush than sex. Translation: if your main objective is to experience a dopamine rush, sex cannot compete with porn, or drugs, etc. But you can have an excellent sex life after porn. And, it gets better with time, once you lose porn. As in I mean, sex is very very good, once you quit porn, but it takes time. It was more important to me to have good sex with my partner than to have an off the charts dopamine hit. It is a matter of what you value. The off the charts dopamine hits was off the charts, the sex with my partner was quite satisfying. It is a choice. Peace.
     
  12. Freedom from Servitude

    Freedom from Servitude Active Member

    I'm still going strong. Here's for another sober January!
     
  13. Freedom from Servitude

    Freedom from Servitude Active Member

    I'm still going strong. Here's for another sober January!
     
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  14. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    Day 5. Clear. Tomorrow day 6.
     
  15. Magnolia

    Magnolia New Member

    Thanks for answering. Glad to hear that, we deserve way better sex.

    I think as a straight girl porn had a quite different impact on me though, not that much dopamine released..
    Still what makes me really sad is how difficult it is to find a man that quit porn without having serious issues by it. Or is it?
     
  16. Magnolia

    Magnolia New Member

    Thanks for answering. Glad to hear that, we deserve way better sex.

    I think as a straight girl porn had a quite different impact on me though, not that much dopamine released..
    Still what makes me really sad is how difficult it is to find a man that quit porn without having serious issues by it. Or is it?
     
  17. Magnolia

    Magnolia New Member

    Thanks for answering. Glad to hear that, we deserve way better sex.

    I think as a straight girl porn had a quite different impact on me though, not that much dopamine released..
    Still what makes me really sad is how difficult it is to find a man that quit porn without having serious issues by it. Or is it?
     
  18. Magnolia

    Magnolia New Member

    Sorry for the bug! I posted 3 times:oops:
     
  19. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    Day 5. Magnolia, one of the first things that was helpful for me was understanding that without a dopamine rush, we would find porn boring. We don't watch it for any other reason, and in fact, getting that high is why we have sex.

    As for finding a man...if the man is a porn addict, it will be difficult to find one without serious issues. If the man is not, why would he give it up? Most guys only give up porn because it causes some problem in their lives.

    You are here doing challenge. Do it. Get some space between you and porn, then ask yourself whether you want it in your life at all.
     
  20. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    Day 5. Magnolia, one of the first things that was helpful for me was understanding that without a dopamine rush, we would find porn boring. We don't watch it for any other reason, and in fact, getting that high is why we have sex.

    As for finding a man...if the man is a porn addict, it will be difficult to find one without serious issues. If the man is not, why would he give it up? Most guys only give up porn because it causes some problem in their lives.

    You are here doing challenge. Do it. Get some space between you and porn, then ask yourself whether you want it in your life at all.
     

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