Porn free february 2018

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by Ansem, Feb 1, 2018.

  1. Ansem

    Ansem Member

    Go go go my friends, keep strong!

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  2. NatureHeals

    NatureHeals Active Member

    im in, last pmo on 30 jan.
     
  3. Pete McVries

    Pete McVries Active Member

    Let's do it, boys. I want to keep my no pmo january momentum going.
     
  4. newcool

    newcool New Member

    relapsed 5times in January....now first day of feb been watching for the past 1 hour. then i remembered my membership here and i am going thru some chats maybe i might go back again after leaving this foru ........ will this addiction ever stop?
     
  5. Tea-man

    Tea-man Member

    I'm in also, building on from last month - it has been a good start to the year, though not easy! Good luck all
     
  6. NewTerritories

    NewTerritories virtual

    Hell yeah. I had good streaks going in January. A good month, but not spotless. My last 12 days have been clean.
     
  7. Living

    Living Well-Known Member

    I'm in. The last time I have been a month without PMO seem ages ago, but perhaps starting with shortest month of the year is a good challenge:)
     
  8. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    @Living

    I was not going to do this challenge. Just completed January successfully. Been clean for a long time, but, I like the "shortest month of the year" comment. Let's see if we can keep you clean for February. No pressure. I am in for February. Now, @Living let's understand what we are doing. We are not just not viewing porn for this month--though we are doing that. We are not using artificial sexual stimulation to boost a dopamine high. That means you are giving up your drug of choice for a month, and that means your brain is going to squirm. You need to mentally prepare, and you need to understand that quitting cannot be passively done. It takes effort. Here is an oldie but goodie. I suggest you study it.

    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/action-or-not-have-you-actually-prepared-for-it.3549/

    WILL

    I have absolute confidence you will succeed. You have to have that confidence too.
     
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  9. newcool

    newcool New Member

    So i sliped again today...first time this month and for the 6th time this year. okay maybe i can still join the challenge for this month or not??....
     
  10. Living

    Living Well-Known Member

    @WilliamOneAndDone Thanx for the support! Although my current account is new I have been a member here before, so I already know a thing or two about rewiring:) But still thanx for the link.
     
  11. niskanen91

    niskanen91 Active Member

    I'm in, last PMO 27th Dec 2017.
     
  12. Ansem

    Ansem Member

    Sure, make it your goal not to relapse anymore this month!
     
  13. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    @Living

    OK. What I found in quitting is the longer I went without, the easier it was to go without. I also found the quitting process was extremely fucking hard, so when I say "easier" I meant "a bit less than soul parchingly hellish." That is hellish, so much so that parchingly is not even a word. I intend to not watch any porn for the month of February, and post that fact, here, daily. Writing, reading, and replying were part of my recovery method. Whenever I wanted to watch, meaning whenever I wanted to use porn to spike my dopamine levels, I found a forum and wrote. I suggest you do the same. It helps. So, if I may be a cheerleader, I am inviting you to take your rebooting skills and put them to work now, this February, and get clean for, at least, this month.

    Day 2 of the February Challenge. Clear. Back tomorrow for day 3.

    Will.

    And @Living I like your screen name. Living is the opposite of porn addiction. Porn addiction is death worship. Time to get back life. See you tomorrow.
     
  14. Tea-man

    Tea-man Member

    I agree Will. Preparing for the cravings is the hardest part. I find that now I am comfortable with the idea of never going back (it took me YEARS, I had several long streaks but still maintained a stash, looked forward to the end of the monthly challenges, and if I relapsed then I wouldn't feel bad relapsing again because it wasn't a long streak yet etc); but I still have to fight the urges when it's quiet... Coming here is great to distract myself, staring at a blank screen and looking for something to do; feel myself start typing... www.you..... (hmmmm).... rbrainrebalanced.com
     
  15. gbs

    gbs Member

    I'm with you guys, IN.
     
  16. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    @gbs Welcome to the party. OK. Day 3, Clear. I will be porn free every day this month. I am not "hoping" I will be, "really really trying" to be. I am going to be totally porn free this month. Translation: I will not be using porn to spike a dopamine high this month. Now, in the beginning, I could not say that with confidence. Every day felt like a high wire act, like I was dangling on the brink, like I could fall at any second. And, in the beginning, I felt like I was almost falling about 500 times a day, but I managed not to. That is the beginning for all newbies. The beginning is the most difficult, and it took me about 120 days porn free before I woke up in the morning and simply did not want it anymore. Not saying I never missed it after, but needing it all day every day, missing it daily, all day every day...I have not felt that for years. You have to understand that quitting porn is training for the marathon. It's ugly a lot of the time, but if you get up in the morning, and start training, and keep training, one day it just becomes what you do. Who are you? Today and for the hard 90, you are a man quitting porn. That is who you are, that is your definition of who you are, who you must be. One day your definition will change. You will be where I am. You will be a man who quit porn. Keep going. Porn is not an option. I have absolute confidence anyone reading this will succeed. Don't forget to read here, write here, daily, and encourage others. How do we help ourselves? We help ourselves by helping others. Get outside, literally, get outside, get with other people, and help yourself.

    Much love.

    Will I AM.
     
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  17. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    Innnnn, no tubes no edging, gonna try substitute craves with some other stupid brainless activity that doesn't involve my di**
     
  18. Living

    Living Well-Known Member

    Not sure if we need to check in daily or something, but I'm still doing fine. Had some urges on friday, but right now I'm safe. Next week might be tough though: 4 days home alone behind my desktop. A nice challenge:)
     
  19. WilliamOneAndDone

    WilliamOneAndDone Active Member

    I suggest checking in daily. It helps focus, in the reboot, and I suggest anyone doing this monthly challenge embrace it as part of the reboot, and plan on getting 1/3 of your hard 90 in this month.

    Day 4, clear. Back tomorrow to report the same.

    This is Russell Brand writing. Enjoy.

    https://www.theguardian.com/culture/2013/mar/09/russell-brand-life-without-drugs

    Substance addictions are a bit different than arousal addictions, but for the quitting both, the experiences are quite similar.

    Much love.

    Will I AM.
     
  20. NewTerritories

    NewTerritories virtual

    I concur, a regular check-in is a valuable habit. I'm going to be more consistent with this. Daily, maybe? I'll try that to start with.

    This week has been a wild ride, and I feel the doors of boundless possibilities have been opened up...
     

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