Porn and ED

Discussion in 'Ages 30-39' started by Neilk, Jan 2, 2019.

  1. Neilk

    Neilk New Member

    Hello to all,
    New here as of today. I have been dealing with my struggle and addiction for a better part of my life. Im 34 yo otherwise healthy male. Married to my wife of 12 years. We have been together since we were 17.
    I had always watched porn in my youth 14, 15 yo. After fining my parents vhs collection. This continued into early adulthood. Even after loosing my virginity at 17 to my wife. And if your wondering yes she is the only sexual partner ive had. We had a healthy sex life on our teens leading up to our marriage at 22yo. So during those years there was more sex than alone stuff. During our 1st year of marriage we fought quite a bit and finally we got on terms. We grew apart and then together those first 2 years. At 24 I sustained an injury to my back after a really bad fall at work. I became detached from us and fell hard into pornography. We still had sex occasionally but my drive was bigger than hers so i found myself sneaking off to wank. I went into a bit of a depression since that accident and i think thats when i reached more into porn as an escape from reality and as a sress release. I developed a minor case of ED at 26 and it progressed since. I would look at porn and wank hours into the night. Ed went and came back with pe. Another bout of depression. Here i am at 34 saying enough is enough. I want my life and my wife. We have had 2 attempts at sex since our child was born 2 years ago and a handful of bjs. This past year i had been sleeping on the couch alone, partly to wank and to avoid the embarrassment of not getting up to perform. I have had enough.
    I haven't orgasmed in weeks but continued to watch n wank.
    I went to bed with my wife the other night for the first time in a long time. I wanted to connect with her in someway. So i offered to give her a back massage. In no way did i want it to turn sexual. I enjoyed our 1.5 hr of rubbing her down. She gave me a bj and that was the last time ive came. Im making this year the year for her, and the year for us, and for me to tackle this addiction head on. I want to cure my ED and PE. I am no longer going to be weak and give in to porn or chat rooms.
    Guys aside from staying away from porn and jerking what else can i do to heal my body? Im taking vitamins C and L arganine fish oils and a few Bs. Ive read i need to heal my parasympathetic (sp) from the hormonal imbalances and that has caused fight or flight during being intimate. I also feel as of my pelvic floor is tight how can i help relax it? Wishing all the best for 2019
     
  2. Londoner

    Londoner Active Member

    Welcome. Sorry to read about your struggles - what's the longest streak you've had without any porn or masturbation?
     
  3. Neilk

    Neilk New Member

    I dont know the exact count but there was several attempts. I want to say jerking was 30 to 45 days. But there was probably porn watched during that time.
     
  4. Gilgamesh

    Gilgamesh Seize the day

    Welcome to the board! It takes courage to take these steps, but it is the greatest gift you can give to yourself and your family.

    I can advice you to have a look around in the general sections (succes stories and pornography addiction) for really vuable advice.

    Health-wise I have most profit from excercise, yoga and breathing excercises. Can you do sports still with your back injuries?
     
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  5. Neilk

    Neilk New Member

    Can you recommend some breathing techniques. Yes if i wanted to do sports i can. However I still do landscaping so im still very active and I know my limits to not over do it
     
  6. Gilgamesh

    Gilgamesh Seize the day

    Different ones. Did a course from the art of living (sri sri ravi shankar) which are really effective techniques, but take half an hour each time. This technique is called the Sudarshan Kriya.

    Other ones that are really useful are the Pranayama (you can find in youtube for sure) and the 'Wim Hof (iceman) breathing method'.
     
  7. Neilk

    Neilk New Member

    Still going strong. I know its only been a few days. The last few mornings ive had morningwood. This morning i was really up which led to some touching for a minute or 2. Gotta stay strong
     
  8. Neilk

    Neilk New Member

    Well its been 14 Days!! I cant remember the last time ive gone this long and it feels pretty damn great. The major cravings and urges have subsided. I feel more focused and aware no brain fog. Im waking up with strong healty erections. I dont have a goal of how many days im going to shoot for. Id rather not since in the past i ended up using PMO as a reward for going so long. I hope to go on forever with no PMO. Beacuse i want my sex life back with mt wife so bad. I want to have sex well into my later years in life. I want to be porn and M free so i dont feel depressed that i'd spend hours upon hours of perving online feeling like shit for the next week physicaly and going right back at it once i feel the slightest bit better
     
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  9. Neilk

    Neilk New Member

    Had a good morning yesterday but quickly turned into a migraine that put me out for most of the day. I may have had a sex dream that woke me up thinking I may have had a wet dream but my boxers were dry and had a semi hard dick. Pretty level headed and clear this morning hoping for a good day
     
  10. Merton

    Merton Member

    Congrats!!
     
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