Porn addiction recovery with a sexual partner?

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by Allistair, Apr 9, 2012.

  1. Allistair

    Allistair New Member

    Hi all,

    I'm new to this whole community, and very interested in the whole process and all of the positive effects of re-balancing and resetting the brain from pornography addiction. I've read a lot of very helpful material both on the affiliated sites and this board, but I have yet to see a whole lot of narrative from my situation, where I'm willing to disavow myself of all pornography, but unwilling to do so with sex. I've spoken with my girlfriend about this whole process, the theory and stories of how it's worked, and my only trials and successes with it, and she's very supportive, but she doesn't want to go 90 days without sex just for the sake of my recovery experiment, and honestly I don't either. So, although I've gone two weeks without viewing any pornography, I am having sex on a weekly basis. What scares me is that my sexual stamina has gone down significantly since removing porn from my life, which makes me wonder if there's anything sexually positive about what I'm doing at all. I've definitely felt the social perks and added energy of life without porn, but will my body be able to reconcile it with regular sexual activity, or am I just as well off going back to a daily M routine? Any thoughts/experiences?
     
  2. Allistair

    Allistair New Member

    Well, I now have thoughts and experiences with this, and I would have to say I actually don't recommend it. I definitely experienced some positives from stopping M, namely my increased energy throughout the day, and that my skin unexpectedly cleared up (I had always thought that M causing acne was an urban legend). However, my sexual stamina suffered a lot, and I had unwarranted bouts of depression and irritability, which actually turned out to be very harmful to my relationship. Maybe since I didn't necessarily start with a real "problem" (ED or overwhelming porn attachment), I'm coming from a place of naivity, but I'm not sure that this program is worth trying if you can't go all-or-nothing.
     
  3. bosseau

    bosseau Guest

    I am in the same boat as you. You need to stop both MO as ejaculation in any form drains the body if done continuously. You need to let your body recgarge as well as your brain.
     

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