In recovery, I've been able to talk openly with lots of guys, inside and outside of recovery, and I keep running into guys who were sexually abused. Which really surprises me. I knew the average rate for women being sexually abused is like 25%, but I originally thought it didn't happen much to boys. Wrong.... :-\ Figured I'd take a poll here to see what our population has experienced in this regard. For purposes of the poll, I'd consider any form of sexual activity that was forced or coerced to be abuse. I think if ANYONE had sex with you when you were younger than say 14, you should indicate abuse, whether you were coerced or forced or NOT! Anyway, bottom line I guess, if YOU consider it abuse, please check the earliest age category that it occurred. Thanks! If you've been abused, I'm sorry that you had to endure that! Anyway, I wasn't abused myself, but I was seduced into having sex at like 20. It messed my life up worse. I was already a porn addict, and sex was just sex. I didn't look for it and wasn't planning to have sex with any guy, but a much older guy joined several family groups in our area, and interacted with me. Met his wife and they seemed really open and interesting. Nobody else had ever taken such an interest in me. Started spending time with them. Eventually, he urged me to play "spoons" and do other physical non-sexual stuff with he and his wife and that opened up the door. Then one day he told me he felt sexual toward me, and I was all in for it by that time. Found out later he had a bunch of other young guys like me (hungry for emotionally missing dads) lined up who he was having sex with on the sly. After a few months I realized I didn't want a same-sex lifestyle and stopped the relationship. Anyway, This activity added lots of shame for a long time on top of the isolation and shame the original PMO addiction was causing.