Poll about Erection in night ?

Discussion in 'Ages 30-39' started by LetsReclaimLife, Apr 28, 2019.

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How many days a week you have erection . At the time of sleep and when you wake up(morning wood) ?

  1. 1 day in a week

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  2. 2 day in a week

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  3. 3 day in a week

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  4. 4 day in a week

    66.7%
  5. 5 day in a week

    33.3%
  6. 6 day in a week

    33.3%
  7. 7 day in a week

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    0.0%
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  1. LetsReclaimLife

    LetsReclaimLife New Member

    Back ground - I am 36 year old male addicted to PMO and cant sleep without it , even if i don't watch porn i have erection every single night (say 5 out of 7 days in a week) while i am going to sleep and when i wake up too .. so its hard for me to sleep with erection and with out PMO ...

    Rebooter's please provide your inputs ...

    I also think due to continues PMO from years i got into Serious PE situation(from last several years) as i need to finish my stuff quickly when i wank, Its Porn generated PE or something else i am trying to figure out the reason yet ...

    and if some body has any thing to help me on this topic .. please share ...
     
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  2. Gil79

    Gil79 Seize the day

    Especially when abstaining basically every night. I see it as a positive thing. A celebration of our life energy.

    Also PE. Wrote something about it recently. Will look it up later. Very interesting read is the book 'secrets of sexual extacy' by Howe, about transforming sexual energy, recently suggestex by @Bobo . Could download it for free. Bit strange, offensive and long introduction, but definitely useful.
     
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  3. Gil79

    Gil79 Seize the day

    This is the post about PE I was talking about (NMMNG stands for the book 'no more mister nice guy' great book as well about disconecting from the validation of women):

    'I guess that you mean that the embarassing part is the premature ejaculation (PE). I have suffered from that whole my life. With some gfs it was worse than with others, I guess also because of the tension I felt (to perform well). I think it is partle that by excessive MO in my youth I have trained myself to be quick, but I also found it interesting to read in NMMNG that PE is often the result of sexual shame (or just feeling umcomfortable expressing sexually). With my wife I am still quite fast, but is has never been a problem. She doesn't mind either, as she likes being stimulated bu hand as well. I had a gf before who didnt like that, and that made things more complicated. But still there are ways around it. You could use a condom (even with numbing cream). Or ask for a bj first, and then give it another go? You could also train together to postpone orgasm. If you think tgat sexual shame or discomfort plays a role, then this may be the best way to go. Myself I have tried kegels in tje past to get better control, bht was never disciplined enough to continue.'
     
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  4. LetsReclaimLife

    LetsReclaimLife New Member

    Yes you got me right ... watching porn made me more stressed / shamed about my situation as those guys can go on for 10 -20 mins and for me its just a minute of so, and now the addiction to ChaturBate.com or online web cam sex kind of things where couples can have sex and fun the way they want and you can tip them and ask them to do what you want them to do and continuously watching them ends with MO and a regret about my situation from deep inside, some thing like that make me feel incomplete something that laughs on me from inside something that says i am incomplete man ... its really a very heart breaking ...

    for me getting an erection and maintaining is never the problem .. but doing the act where things go wrong ... :(

    I don't remember either from when i have started PE , might be its long life, and about my MO habit is result of PE or PE is result of MO i don't know .. Coz i MO from my puberty.. and the time i realize that i have PE .. all the suggestion that i got is to do MO before the sex so you can go longer .. and the problem of MO got deep rooted in my system ..

    I have taken pills given by doc's (SSRI's drugs) to delay but they are having adverse impact on my health .. hence i stopped them and they are not permanent solution for the problem at-least what i feel coz the spontaneous fun of sex and quality of time is gone, and it feels like that i am only with the other person only for sex and that is all in mind for next 3-4 hours ...

    About kegel i will try them again ...

    I have almost given up on this situation and accepted that as part of my life but then ... I thought of fighting it back and to solve it .. and then i have to fix my smoking problem and the PMO thing first ... so i am here ...

    @Gilgamesh... Thanks for the reference of the books and valuable advise ...
     

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